Family & Relationships Heal a Broken Heart With 'Breakup Bootcamp' Author Amy Chan By Amy Morin, LCSW Amy Morin, LCSW Facebook LinkedIn Twitter Amy Morin, LCSW, is a psychotherapist and international bestselling author. Her books, including "13 Things Mentally Strong People Don't Do," have been translated into more than 40 languages. Her TEDx talk, "The Secret of Becoming Mentally Strong," is one of the most viewed talks of all time. Learn about our editorial process Updated on April 06, 2021 Print Verywell / Julie Bang Every Monday on The Verywell Mind Podcast, Editor-in-Chief Amy Morin, LCSW, interviews authors, experts, entrepreneurs, athletes, musicians, and other inspirational people about the strategies that help them think, feel, and do their best in life. Subscribe Now: Apple Podcasts / Spotify / Google Podcasts Meet Amy Chan Amy Chan has been writing about relationships and dating for over a decade. In her book, Breakup Bootcamp, she explains the science-backed approaches to heal from past, rewire subconscious patterns, and create healthy love. Amy is also Editor-in-Chief of Heart Hackers Club—an online magazine that focuses on the psychology behind love, lust, and desire. She has been featured across national media including a cover story on the front page of the New York Times, Good Morning America, Nightline, Fortune, Marie Claire, Vogue, and more. Why Amy Chan Is Mentally Strong When Amy Chan went through a tough breakup, she struggled to heal her broken heart. She felt depressed, anxious, and she even became suicidal. Her experience made her realize that there aren’t many resources available for people who are struggling to recover from a breakup. So she decided to share her wisdom and start Renew Breakup Bootcamp, a retreat that takes a scientific and spiritual approach to healing the heart. What You'll Hear on the Show Why breakups hurt so much How to recognize your attachment style Why we are sometimes attracted to the wrong people How your childhood affects your dating life How to deal with the sting of a breakup Steps you can take to keep your relationships healthy The things you should avoid doing right after a breakup (these things will only prolong the pain) The things you should do to help heal your emotional wounds How the “sunk cost” fallacy plays out in relationships What You’ll Learn About Healing From a Broken Heart and Mental Strength Sometimes, people think that self-care after a break up means sitting around in your pajamas and eating ice cream. But that’s self-pity, not self-care. While it’s important to let yourself experience sadness, healing also involves pushing yourself to do things you don’t want to do. Whether that means eating dinner with friends or taking a class, put yourself out there. This doesn’t mean you should ignore your feelings by “staying busy.” That’s not healthy either. But, taking positive action while also allowing yourself time to grieve can be key to healing a broken heart. Quotes From Amy Amy Chan When you judge yourself for feeling bad, you just add an extra layer of shame. — Amy Chan "We have compound trauma that adds up. And then that last one kind of catapults us into this journey of healing and feeling it all at once.""One of the things you need to do after a breakup is to create a strategy on how you are going to fill your time.""Your body's in a state of shock, and it's going to try and do whatever it can to get more of that feeling. And so sometimes we're stalking their Instagram or re-reading text messages or even calling them and having a fight." More About This Podcast The Verywell Mind Podcast is available across all streaming platforms. If you like the show, please leave us a review on Apple Podcasts. Reviews and ratings are a great way to encourage other people to listen and help them prioritize their mental health too. Links and Resources Follow Amy on Instagram Check out Amy’s website Buy Amy’s book Breakup Bootcamp Learn how to deal with grief and heartbreak By Amy Morin, LCSW Amy Morin, LCSW, is a psychotherapist and international bestselling author. Her books, including "13 Things Mentally Strong People Don't Do," have been translated into more than 40 languages. Her TEDx talk, "The Secret of Becoming Mentally Strong," is one of the most viewed talks of all time. See Our Editorial Process Meet Our Review Board Share Feedback Was this page helpful? Thanks for your feedback! What is your feedback? Other Helpful Report an Error Submit Speak to a Therapist Online Advertiser Disclosure × The offers that appear in this table are from partnerships from which Verywell Mind receives compensation.