What’s Your Attachment Style? With Dr. Amir Levine

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Every Monday on The Verywell Mind Podcast, Editor-in-Chief Amy Morin, LCSW, interviews authors, experts, entrepreneurs, athletes, musicians, and other inspirational people about the strategies that help them think, feel, and do their best in life.

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Meet Amir Levine

Dr. Amir Levine is an Assistant Professor in the Department of Psychiatry in the Division of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry at Columbia University. He’s a leading researcher on molecular processes unique to the developing brain. His research has uncovered findings that may lead to changes in how mood disorders and addictions are treated in adolescents and adults. 

He’s also the co-author of a popular book, "Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find and Keep Love." In it, he describes how understanding our attachments in adulthood can improve our relationships. 

Why Amir Levine Is Mentally Strong

Dr. Levine studies the complex processes in the brain, and he uses the information to inform the way mental health issues and substance use disorders are treated.

He can also take complex information and turn it into easy-to-understand concepts that his readers are eager to apply to their relationships.

His book’s popularity increased during COVID–when many people found their relationships struggling. His information is shared widely on social media as his readers have an in-depth understanding of their behavior based on his insights.

What You’ll Hear on the Show

  • What we know about childhood attachment versus adult attachment
  • How your peer relationships affect your attachment style
  • Why you’re capable of changing your attachment style
  • The three different attachment styles
  • The statistics on how many people experience each attachment style
  • How each attachment style plays out in adult relationships
  • How to identify your attachment style
  • How your partner can impact your biology and your emotions
  • Why you may want to identify your partner’s attachment style
  • How understanding the fit between your attachment style and your partner’s attachment style can improve your relationship
  • How there are advantages to each of the attachment styles
  • How acting secure can give you insight into your relationship

What You’ll Learn About Mental Health and Mental Strength

Mental health is often discussed in terms of diagnoses and pathological issues. But it’s important to look at behavior and problems concerning the environment and other people too.

The people around you can have a huge impact on your well-being. It’s also important to look at the fit between your personality and someone else’s personality.

Relationships have the power to help you be your best, as well as the power to drag you down a bit. 

Two healthy people may still have some dysfunctional dynamics. Similarly, two individuals struggling in life might come together to bring out the best in one another. And while you can’t change the people around you, you can certainly change your behavior—which can shift a relationship. 

Quotes From Dr. Levine

Dr. Amir Levine

The attachment style you have in childhood is not necessarily the attachment style you're going to have as an adult.

— Dr. Amir Levine
  • "There are studies that show that if we're in a secure relationship and we have a cut, it will heal faster."

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By Amy Morin, LCSW, Editor-in-Chief
Amy Morin, LCSW, is the Editor-in-Chief of Verywell Mind. She's also a licensed clinical social worker, psychotherapist, and international bestselling author. Her books, including "13 Things Mentally Strong People Don't Do," have been translated into more than 40 languages. Her TEDx talk,  "The Secret of Becoming Mentally Strong," is one of the most viewed talks of all time.