Relationships Spouses & Partners Why It's Good to Sleep Next to Your Partner By Sanjana Gupta Sanjana Gupta Sanjana is a health writer and editor. Her work spans various health-related topics, including mental health, fitness, nutrition, and wellness. Learn about our editorial process Updated on February 11, 2023 Medically reviewed Verywell Mind articles are reviewed by board-certified physicians and mental healthcare professionals. Medical Reviewers confirm the content is thorough and accurate, reflecting the latest evidence-based research. Content is reviewed before publication and upon substantial updates. Learn more. by Ivy Kwong, LMFT Medically reviewed by Ivy Kwong, LMFT LinkedIn Twitter Ivy Kwong, LMFT, is a psychotherapist specializing in relationships, love and intimacy, trauma and codependency, and AAPI mental health. Learn about our Medical Review Board Print JGI/Tom Grill/Tetra Images/Getty Table of Contents View All Table of Contents Better Sleep Quality Improved Mental Health Increased Intimacy Deciding to sleep next to your partner can be a pretty big step. Since we spend about one-third of our days—and our lives—sleeping, this can feel like a pretty big commitment. While the thought of cuddling up with your partner can definitely seem cozy and appealing, you may wonder how it will affect your ability to sleep and whether sleeping next to your partner is better than sleeping alone. In addition to deepening your physical, emotional, and spiritual connection with your partner, sleeping next to your partner can benefit your mental health in many ways, says Claudia de Llano, LMFT, a licensed marriage and family therapist. This article discusses some of the mental health benefits of sleeping next to your partner. Better Sleep Quality These are some of the ways that sleeping next to your partner can improve the quality of your sleep, according to Sabrina Romanoff, PsyD, a clinical psychologist and professor at Yeshiva University. Improved sleep duration and efficiency: Research shows us that sleeping next to a partner is linked to increased sleep duration, higher sleep efficiency, and better sleep quality overall. Getting a good night’s sleep helps reduce stress and boosts restorative functions. More REM sleep: A 2020 study found that sleeping next to a partner is associated with 10% more rapid eye movement (REM) sleep. The REM stage of sleep, which is where most dreams occur, is critical for cognitive functions such as learning and remembering. Shorter time taken to fall asleep: Research has found that partners are more likely to fall asleep faster when they sleep next to each other. The time taken to fall asleep is known as sleep latency, and shorter sleep latency is associated with better sleep efficiency. From an evolutionary perspective, we are most vulnerable to attack when we are sleeping at night so there is safety in numbers, Dr. Romanoff explains. “Therefore, you may subconsciously feel more safe and protected when you’re sleeping next to your partner than when you're alone, which can help you sleep better.” Getting a good night’s sleep is important for your health and well-being. Not sleeping well can negatively affect your immunity, heart health, weight, memory, learning ability, and reaction time, among other things. Improved Mental Health A 2022 study published in the journal Sleep concluded that sleeping next to your partner can offer several benefits for your mental health, including: Lower levels of depressionLower levels of anxietyLower levels of stressLower risk of sleep apneaReduced severity of insomniaGreater social supportHigher satisfaction with life and relationships Dr. Romanoff explains that poor quality sleep is the one of the main common symptoms of mental health disorders such as depression and anxiety. "Since sleeping next to a partner promotes better sleep, it reduces that symptom and, in turn, improves the disorder." How Your Sleeping Positions Impact Your Well-Being Increased Intimacy Below, de Llano describes some of the ways sleeping next to your partner can improve the physical, emotional, and spiritual connection between the two of you and increase intimacy in your relationship. Physical Intimacy Sleeping next to your partner not only enables sexual intimacy, but also promotes physical intimacy in the form of hugging, cuddling, kissing, and holding hands. In fact, a research study with 778 participants found that the physical and sexual intimacy caused by sleeping next to a partner triggers the release of a hormone known as oxytocin. The authors of the study note that oxytocin not only promotes better sleep, but it also reduces stress and promotes bonding. Emotional Intimacy Sleeping next to your partner offers an opportunity for you and your partner to share your thoughts, feelings, hopes, and perspectives with each other in a safe space, thereby bringing you closer together. In fact, research suggests that sleeping next to a partner helps improve emotional intimacy as well as emotional satisfaction in the relationship. Spiritual Intimacy Sleeping in the same bed can be a spiritual experience for many couples. Apart from feeling closer to your partner, the shared experience can also help you be more in sync with each other on a physiological and spiritual level. Research has found that partners’ heartbeats sync up when they sleep next to each other—heartbeats are electrical pulses and when you sleep next to your partner, they are transmitted to them via faint vibrations. A Word From Verywell Sleeping next to a partner doesn’t necessarily mean that it’ll all be smooth sailing. For instance, your partner may snore loudly, kick or fidget, talk in their sleep, experience nightmares, hog the covers, move often during the night, watch television until late, keep their phone on loud, or prefer different sleeping temperatures, says Dr. Romanoff. However, various research studies have found that despite these factors, partners who sleep next to each other tend to experience better sleep, greater intimacy, and improved mental health. Best Sleep Apps 9 Sources Verywell Mind uses only high-quality sources, including peer-reviewed studies, to support the facts within our articles. Read our editorial process to learn more about how we fact-check and keep our content accurate, reliable, and trustworthy. Canto CB, Onuki Y, Bruinsma B, van der Werf YD, De Zeeuw CI. The sleeping cerebellum. Trends Neurosci. 2017;40(5):309-323. doi:10.1016/j.tins.2017.03.001 Drews HJ, Wallot S, Weinhold SL, et al. "Are we in sync with each other?" Exploring the effects of co-sleeping on heterosexual couples' sleep using simultaneous polysomnography: a pilot study. Sleep Disord. 2017;2017:8140672. doi:10.1155/2017/8140672 Drews HJ, Wallot S, Brysch P, et al. Bed-sharing in couples is associated with increased and stabilized REM sleep and sleep-stage synchronization. Front Psychiatry. 2020;11:583. doi:10.3389/fpsyt.2020.00583 National Institutes of Health. REM sleep. Sprajcer M, O'Mullan C, Reynolds A, Paterson JL, Bachmann A, Lastella M. Sleeping together: understanding the association between relationship type, sexual activity, and sleep. Sleep Sci. 2022;15(Spec 1):80-88. doi:10.5935/1984-0063.20220005 Elsey T, Keller PS, El-Sheikh M. The role of couple sleep concordance in sleep quality: attachment as a moderator of associations. J Sleep Res. 2019;28(5):e12825. doi:10.1111/jsr.12825 National Institutes of Health. Why is sleep important? Fuentes B, Kennedy K, Killgore W, Wills C, Grandner M. Bed-sharing versus sleeping alone associated with sleep health and mental health. Sleep. 2022 Vol 45, Issue Supplement_1. doi:10.1093/sleep/zsac079.009 Yoon H, Choi SH, Kim SK, et al. Human heart rhythms synchronize while co-sleeping. Front Physiol. 2019;10:190. doi:10.3389/fphys.2019.00190 By Sanjana Gupta Sanjana is a health writer and editor. Her work spans various health-related topics, including mental health, fitness, nutrition, and wellness. See Our Editorial Process Meet Our Review Board Share Feedback Was this page helpful? Thanks for your feedback! What is your feedback? Other Helpful Report an Error Submit Speak to a Therapist for Relationships Advertiser Disclosure × The offers that appear in this table are from partnerships from which Verywell Mind receives compensation.