The 9 Best Books About Infidelity of 2020

Reads to help you heal and move forward after infidelity

Our editors independently research, test, and recommend the best products; you can learn more about our review process here. We may receive commissions on purchases made from our chosen links.

Our Top Picks

"After the Affair: Healing the Pain"

"Teaches how to heal from pain and grow after the trauma."

"Healing from Infidelity"

"Can help you work through the disbelief and anger of an affair."

"Not 'Just Friends': Rebuilding Trust"

"Takes you step-by-step through the process of infidelity."

"Surviving an Affair"

"Provides profound advice to recover your marriage."

"Anatomy of an Affair"

"Offers real-life examples to help you with healing."

"Unfaithful: Hope and Healing"

"By a couple that experienced the pain of adultery."

"How to Help Your Spouse Heal"

"Offers solid advice on how unfaithful partners can rebuild trust."

"Getting Past the Affair: A Program to Help You"

"Helps partners understand what happened."

"Infidelity: A Survival Guide"

"Advice on how to deal with the emotional impact of an affair."

Our Top Picks


"After the Affair: Healing the Pain and Rebuilding Trust When a Partner Has Been Unfaithful"

"After the Affair" teaches partners how to heal from pain, restore trust, and grow after the trauma of infidelity. Drawing on her 35 years as a clinical psychologist, infidelity expert Janis Spring offers her proven strategies to deal with issues such as why affairs happen, whether forgiveness is possible, and how to rebuild love and intimacy.

With a new section on online affairs in cyberspace, this newly revised and updated edition gives guidance to those dealing with infidelity, while making them realize they’re not alone. "After the Affair" can help both partners understand their actions, their reactions to themselves and each other, and how to cope with ending or continuing their marriage.


"Healing from Infidelity: The Divorce Busting Guide to Rebuilding Your Marriage After an Affair"

A complete guide to all the stages of infidelity, this widely-recommended book can help you work through the pain, disbelief, and anger of an affair. Bestselling author and renowned therapist Michele Weiner-Davis uses her decades of experience to offer a powerful step-by-step plan for helping couples rebuild trust and mend their marriages.

With advice on topics such as how to offer sincere apologies, show empathy, overcome flashbacks and painful memories, and find forgiveness, "Healing from Infidelity" is a road-map for couples who want to recover from betrayal and make their marriage stronger than before the affair.


"Not 'Just Friends': Rebuilding Trust and Recovering Your Sanity After Infidelity"

With a focus on love affairs that develop out of friendships, this comprehensive book takes you step-by-step through the process of infidelity. A leading expert on the subject, Shirley P. Glass, Ph.D. offers advice on how to determine whether individuals and relationships are vulnerable to temptation, as well as tips on how to keep relationships “safe”.

She offers insightful, practical guidance on ways to prevent cheating, red flags to look for, and steps for recovery and healing if it does happen. With fact-backed research as well as examples of real couples and their struggles, "Not 'Just Friends'" can help with understanding points of view of all people involved, as well as affirming your own emotions.


"Surviving an Affair"

If you’re looking for a Christian-based guide to understanding and healing from infidelity, "Surviving an Affair" is an excellent option. Authors Willard Harley, Jr., Ph.D. and Jennifer Chalmers, Ph.D. offer advice for those who are committed to saving their marriages, with tips on healing and restoring love, trust, and passion for each other.

This book also details the most common types of affairs, why they begin, and ways to affair-proof your marriage. Whether you’re a hurt partner or the one who strayed, "Surviving an Affair" provides profound advice to recover your marriage.


"Anatomy of an Affair"

Whether you’re trying to recover from the shock and trauma of infidelity or you want to guard against an affair, "Anatomy of an Affair" offers real-life examples, expert advice, and current research to help with healing and prevention. Author Dave Carder, a counselor and pastor, shares insights from his 30 years of working with couples who have recovered from affairs.

His book helps you identify the stress factors and behaviors that may make you vulnerable to an affair, as well as positive steps a couple can take to protect their marriage. A worthwhile read for any engaged or married couple, "Anatomy of an Affair" addresses emotional affairs as well as close call relationships that start innocently but can go too far very quickly.


"Unfaithful: Hope and Healing After Infidelity"

Written by a couple that experienced the pain of adultery and ultimately healed and saved their marriage, this book offers their heartfelt, honest perspectives, as well as practical strategies. "Unfaithful" also includes real stories of betrayal and forgiveness from other couples, giving readers hope and advice for repairing their relationships. Although it’s a Christian perspective, the advice and examples are very relatable and useful to anyone trying to understand their emotions and triggers after an affair.


"How to Help Your Spouse Heal from Your Affair"

A straightforward and practical guide, "How to Help Your Spouse Heal from Your Affair" offers solid advice on how unfaithful partners can repair their marriage and rebuild their integrity. Infidelity expert Linda J. MacDonald explains the positive behaviors and attitudes that can help mend marriages and restore trust.

Short, simple, and easy to read, this book also offers advice on how to undo the damage from lies, accept responsibility, and show true remorse. "How to Help Your Spouse Heal from Your Affair" is also helpful for betrayed partners, who can use it to understand that their emotions and triggers are completely normal and reasonable and also to help determine if their partner is truly committed to recovery and the relationship.


"Getting Past the Affair: A Program to Help You Cope, Heal, and Move On—Together or Apart"

Offering support and guidance from a team of couple’s therapists, "Getting Past the Affair" is geared toward betrayed partners who want to understand what happened and potential reasons why before deciding how they want to move forward. If you choose to try to stay in your marriage, you’ll get real advice about how to restore trust and love. If you decide to move on separately, you’ll find tips and strategies on how to recover from the betrayal, avoid lasting damage, and be ready for healthy future relationships.


"Infidelity: A Survival Guide"

After the trauma of discovering an affair, you’ll want advice on how to cope with the emotional impact and better understand your perspective and feelings, as well as get practical steps you can take to move forward. "Infidelity: A Survival Guide" includes valuable tips on developing the language for positive communication with your partner and can help you organize and express your emotions and expectations clearly. A quick but helpful read, this book also provides advice on how to address infidelity with your kids and explores how others may react if you confide in them.

Was this page helpful?