Top Books About Surviving Infidelity

If you are trying to cope with the reality of an unfaithful spouse, these books may provide some helpful and reassuring advice on how to pick up the pieces of your life, and how to rebuild your marriage if you choose to do so.

Self-help books are not a replacement for professional help. They are, however, very helpful in addition to other work you do to heal your marriage. They can offer an objective understanding of who, what, why and how on affairs.


"After the Affair: Overcoming the Pain and Rebuilding Trust"

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Janis Abrahms Spring and Michael Spring are the authors of this informative and often recommended book.

If you are going through the pain, heartache, disbelief, and anger of infidelity, After The Affair may help you cope with your mixed feelings, deal with your future, and make the decision whether or not to try to rebuild your marriage.


"Healing from Infidelity: The Divorce Busting Guide"

The latest book by Michele Weiner-Davis discusses the devastation people feel upon discovering their spouse has been unfaithful. Couples often hit stalemates as they struggle to get past intense emotional pain, mistrust, resentment and never-ending arguments about the betrayal.

The author uses her decades of experience to help couples recover from betrayal and save their marriages by using a step-by-step program.


"Infidelity: A Survival Guide"

This book by Don-David Lusterman can help couples overcome infidelity and shows how a marriage can not only survive but thrive after couples confront the reasons behind the indiscretions.


"When Good People Have Affairs"

Therapist and author Mira Kirshenbaum has treated thousands of people caught in the powerful drama over what to do when an affair devastates their lives.

Kirshenbaum leads readers through six easy-to-navigate steps that take readers from crisis to clarity. She also identifies seventeen types of affairs.


"Surviving Infidelity: Making Decisions, Recovering from the Pain"

Rona Subotnik and Gloria Harris write about making decisions and moving beyond the pain of infidelity.

If you are looking for an understanding of why your spouse was unfaithful and how to recover from the affair, Surviving Infidelity offers practical help in a nonjudgmental and compassionate way.


"Not 'Just Friends': Rebuilding Trust and Recovering Your Sanity"

Author Shirley P. Glass offers help in how to recognize the red flags that could possibly mark the stages of your spouse slipping into an affair

From suspicion and revelation to healing, she offers practical guidance to prevent cheating and, if it happens, recover and heal from it.


"Surviving an Affair"

Willard F. Harley and Jennifer Harley Chalmers attempt to validate the feelings and experiences of couples dealing with infidelity, and offer practical, helpful strategies for recovery.


"Back from Betrayal: Saving a Marriage, a Family, a Life"

Suzy Farbman shares her personal story in this book, which can be both difficult to read and inspiring at the same time.

Back from Betrayal is a very honest account of the nightmare of marital infidelity and the long journey back to reconciliation. It's also sure to create strong opinions around the "stay vs. go" dilemma.


"Private Lies: Infidelity and Betrayal of Intimacy"

Veteran therapist and author (now deceased) Frank Pittman provides a well-written book with information on why affairs happen, consequences, and advice for both the unfaithful partner and the wounded spouse.


"Betrayed!: How You Can Restore Sexual Trust and Rebuild Your Life"

Riki Robbins provides advice on how to successfully live through betrayal. Sections include how to confront your spouse, getting support from family and friends, talking to your children about what has happened, learning to trust again, being able to forgive, and rebuilding your self-image.


"How Could You Do This to Me?: Learning to Trust After Betrayal"

Jane Greer and Margery D. Rosen discuss the reasons betrayers betray, information about betrayers, and how to deal with the emotions that you may feel after being betrayed. There's also a section on learning to trust again.


"Straight Talk About Betrayal: A Self-Help Guide for Couples"

In a very short book of only 48 pages, author Donna R. Bellafiore summarizes stages of recovery and has tear-out evaluation sections for you and your mate to individually assess the strengths and weaknesses of your marriage.

It's not as comprehensive as the other books, but may be worth a quick read, especially for those in crisis.

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