Family & Relationships Friday Fix: 5 Boundary Mistakes to Avoid By Amy Morin, LCSW, Editor-in-Chief Published on August 05, 2022 Print Verywell / Julie Bang Table of Contents View All Table of Contents Friday Fix: Episode 189 More About the Podcast Every Friday on The Verywell Mind Podcast, Editor-in-Chief Amy Morin, LCSW, shares the “Friday Fix”—a short episode featuring a quick, actionable tip or exercise to help you manage a specific mental health issue or concern. Follow Now: Apple Podcasts / Spotify / Google Podcasts Friday Fix: Episode 189 Boundaries involve setting rules that make it clear how you want to be treated. Sometimes, that means saying no to something like, “No, I won’t loan you my car.” Other boundaries involve telling someone what you expect like, “I expect you to call before showing up at my house.” Sometimes, it’s important to announce your boundaries to other people. You might say, “Please don’t ask about my health issues in front of other people.” At other times, however, it’s best to show what your boundaries are with your behavior. If you’re at a dinner party where people start drinking heavily and you’re uncomfortable, you might find it’s best to leave without offering an explanation about why. Setting boundaries can feel uncomfortable at first if you aren’t used to setting them, but establishing clear boundaries shows you have respect for yourself and it can be the key to establishing healthy relationships with other people. But there are a lot of misconceptions about boundaries. And these misconceptions often spread quickly on social media and cause many people to misunderstand how to set boundaries in a healthy way. So on this Friday Fix episode of The Verywell Mind Podcast, I talk about the common boundary-making mistakes you’re going to want to avoid. How to Know If You Are in a Healthy Relationship More About the Podcast The Verywell Mind Podcast is available across all streaming platforms. If you like the show, please leave us a review on Apple Podcasts. Reviews and ratings are a great way to encourage other people to listen and help them prioritize their mental health too. Editor’s Note: Please be mindful that this transcript does not go through our standard editorial process and may contain inaccuracies and grammatical errors. Thank you. For media or public speaking inquiries, contact Amy here. Download the Transcript Links and Resources Follow Amy Morin on Instagram Check out Amy’s books on mental strength If You Liked This Episode You Might Also Like These Episodes: How to Set Boundaries With Therapist Nedra Glover-Tawwab Friday Fix: How to Stay Mentally Strong When Someone Is Gaslighting You Friday Fix: How to Stop Being a People-Pleaser How to Set Healthy Boundaries When Dealing With Addiction By Amy Morin, LCSW, Editor-in-Chief Amy Morin, LCSW, is the Editor-in-Chief of Verywell Mind. She's also a licensed clinical social worker, psychotherapist, and international bestselling author. Her books, including "13 Things Mentally Strong People Don't Do," have been translated into more than 40 languages. Her TEDx talk, "The Secret of Becoming Mentally Strong," is one of the most viewed talks of all time. See Our Editorial Process Meet Our Review Board Share Feedback Was this page helpful? Thanks for your feedback! What is your feedback? Other Helpful Report an Error Submit Speak to a Therapist Online Advertiser Disclosure × The offers that appear in this table are from partnerships from which Verywell Mind receives compensation.