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Reasons You Might Be Depressed

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It's possible to be depressed but not know it. This isn't to say that you aren't aware that you feel bad, but you may not be aware that what you are feeling could be labeled as "depression." 

Reasons You May Not Know That You Are Depressed

There are several explanations for being depressed and not knowing it. Depression might not be on your radar, either due to denial or stigma, or you may dismiss is due to the fact that you've been experiencing it for so long. You may even be mistaking the symptoms of depression for something else. Here are a few more reasons why you may not realize that you what you are experiencing is in fact depression.

  • You've been depressed for so long that it simply feels normal to you. This may be especially true for those who have been depressed since early childhood.
  • You may not be feeling particularly sad so you think it can't possibly be depression. Keep in mind that depression can take more forms than just a feeling of profound sadness. You may feel tired, low in energy or lack in any real sense of joy without necessarily feeling sadness or being weepy.
  • Depression can develop gradually over an extended period of time. When the changes in mood are subtle and come on slowly we may simply not recognize that things aren't the same as they used to be.
  • Depression can make you feel down about yourself. If you are feeling like you are somehow bad or defective it's easy to dismiss what you are feeling as somehow being an innate part of yourself that can't be fixed. You may feel that rather than suffering from a treatable illness you are irreparably broken and unworthy of feeling better.
  • Cultural differences can also make it more difficult to recognize and acknowledge depression. If those around you treat depression as something that must be borne without complaint then you may feel as if asking for help is a sign of weakness.

Some Common Causes of Depression

So how do you know if you are depressed? If you've been experiencing several of the following symptoms for at least two weeks then it is possible that you could be suffering from depression:

  • Feelings of sadness or emptiness
  • Anger and irritability
  • Loss of interest in activities usually enjoyed
  • Sleep problems such as insomnia or sleeping too much
  • Fatigue or lack of energy
  • Changes in appetite or weight (can be either a lack of appetite accompanied by weight loss or increased appetite with weight gain)
  • Anxiety and agitation
  • Slowed thought, speech or physical movements
  • Feelings of worthlessness, hopelessness or excessive guilt
  • Problems with thinking, memory, concentration and decision making
  • Thoughts of death and suicide
  • Mysterious aches and pains with no discernible cause

How to Get Help

If you suspect that you may have depression—or things simply don't feel quite right—it is a wise idea to speak with your personal physician about what you feeling. He can screen you for possible causes for your symptoms and get you the proper medical care that you need.

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As part of your doctor visit, you may have certain blood tests done to rule out other causes of your depression symptoms. Certain conditions—such as hypothyroidism—can create symptoms which mimic depression.

Once these conditions have been ruled out your doctor can then either treat you himself with antidepressant medications, including selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors (SSRIs), serotonin-norepinephrine reuptake inhibitors (SNRIs), monoamine oxidase inhibitors (MAOIs), atypical antidepressants, and tricyclic antidepressants (TCAs). He may also refer you to a psychiatrist, psychotherapist, or another qualified mental health professional who specializes in treating mental health conditions .

Individual therapy, including cognitive-behavioral therapy, can provide a safe and supportive environment for you to explore what's behind your depression and how to work through your sadness. Since it's normal to feel alone, isolated, or different when you're depressed, you might also consider group therapy. This type of therapy can help you see that others are going through the same thing, which can help you feel less alone.

Whichever direction you take, remember that there is no stigma in getting help for depression. It is a serious and treatable condition—and one you don't have to manage alone.

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