Stress Management Effects on Health College Homesickness and How Parents Can Help By Jackie Burrell Jackie Burrell Jackie Burrell is a former education and parenting reporter, experienced in issues around parenting young adults as a mother of four. Learn about our editorial process Updated on March 15, 2021 Medically reviewed Verywell Mind articles are reviewed by board-certified physicians and mental healthcare professionals. Medical Reviewers confirm the content is thorough and accurate, reflecting the latest evidence-based research. Content is reviewed before publication and upon substantial updates. Learn more. by Carly Snyder, MD Medically reviewed by Carly Snyder, MD Facebook LinkedIn Twitter Carly Snyder, MD is a reproductive and perinatal psychiatrist who combines traditional psychiatry with integrative medicine-based treatments. Learn about our Medical Review Board Fact checked Verywell Mind content is rigorously reviewed by a team of qualified and experienced fact checkers. Fact checkers review articles for factual accuracy, relevance, and timeliness. We rely on the most current and reputable sources, which are cited in the text and listed at the bottom of each article. Content is fact checked after it has been edited and before publication. Learn more. by Emily Swaim Fact checked by Emily Swaim LinkedIn Emily is a board-certified science editor who has worked with top digital publishing brands like Voices for Biodiversity, Study.com, GoodTherapy, Vox, and Verywell. Learn about our editorial process Print Derek Latta/E+/Getty Images Heading off to college is exciting, but it’s also a time of apprehension and anxiety—and soon, homesickness too. Some kids feel the pangs when they first arrive. Others get a tinge a few weeks in, once the adrenaline rush of arrival wears off. And still others experience a wallop when they go back to school after the long winter break. Of course, knowing it’s all to be expected doesn’t make it any less painful for parents whose freshman or first-year grad student calls up in tears far from home. It's only natural, after all, to long for the familiarity of home, friends, and family when you're suddenly immersed in new surroundings, new schedules, and new people. So that call may make Mom and Dad feel an overwhelming urge to swoop to the rescue or fly junior home. That’s a bad idea for several reasons. How to Make Friends as an Adult Why Taking a Homesick Kid Home Is a Bad Idea Those first weeks are when your child’s suitemates and new classmates are the most interested in making new friends. A new freshman is welcome at any table in the cafeteria at the beginning; a month into the semester and those tables will hold tight-knit clusters. So a kid who spends those first weekends at home not only postpones and prolongs the inevitable emotions of separation, but also misses the very things that will make things better—new friends and a new level of comfort that can only be found by sticking it out and settling in. If you swoop in to the rescue, you're depriving your kid of the chance to sort things out for themself, to learn to cope and be an independent adult. It's the kind of helicopter-ish move that achieves the exact opposite of what you intended. But that doesn't mean you can't do anything. Healthy Ways Parents Can Help Reassurance: Reassure your new college student that what they are feeling is natural, expected, and common. Their roommate, the kids down the hall, and the students in every seat of that Whatever 101 lecture hall all share those feelings. Reassure your child that you love them, that they can handle this, and that this too shall pass.Comfort objects & care packages: Remember those comforting touches of home you helped them pack? This is when that cozy blanket, photos of family and friends, teddy bear, or a chapter or two of Hogwarts magic comes in handy. If your new freshman went off to school without that favorite throw or their favorite funny photo with their siblings, tuck them into a care package along with some cookies and ship it off. In fact, a care package the second or third week of school is a splendid idea in any case. (Tuck in a DIY photo-festooned pencil cup too.)Campus outings: Encourage your child to get out of their dorm room and do something—and then call and tell you about it. Tell them to explore their new college town, check out the gym, grab a roommate and go to a show, or head down to the outdoor adventures office and sign up for an outing. Dorm RAs set up tons of social events and group outings for the first few weeks of school for precisely this reason—it helps kids meet each other and eases the homesick blues.Fresh air, no texts: Getting outdoors means fresh air and exercise, which makes anyone feel better. And kids who are outdoors, kayaking with new friends or on a dorm-arranged campus scavenger hunt are less likely to be locked in their room, miserably texting friends from back home. Staying in touch with old friends is good, but not if it’s at the expense of meeting new people.The six-week rendezvous: It's easier to endure a separation if there's a time limit, right? It's no coincidence that so many colleges host homecoming reunions or parent weekend about six weeks into the semester. It's the perfect time to visit your new freshman, enough time to let them settle in, but not so much as to feel impossible. If you're feeling a bout of the empty nest blues, it will make you feel better too.Campus resources: If your child is having a really difficult time adjusting, there are two additional resources you can suggest. Their dorm RA is trained in helping new students acclimate and cope with homesickness. The campus health center's counselors can help too. 3 Sources Verywell Mind uses only high-quality sources, including peer-reviewed studies, to support the facts within our articles. Read our editorial process to learn more about how we fact-check and keep our content accurate, reliable, and trustworthy. English T, Davis J, Wei M, Gross JJ. Homesickness and adjustment across the first year of college: a longitudinal study. Emotion. 2017;17(1):1-5. doi:10.1037/emo0000235 Landa I, Bono TJ, English T. Mood regulation and relationship quality predict change in homesickness during college. Br J Psychol. 2019;111(1):55-69. doi:10.1111/bjop.12386 Yuen HK, Jenkins GR. 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