Addiction How to Stop Self-Destructive Behavior With Actor Ethan Suplee By Amy Morin, LCSW Amy Morin, LCSW Facebook LinkedIn Twitter Amy Morin, LCSW, is the Editor-in-Chief of Verywell Mind. She's also a psychotherapist, the author of the bestselling book "13 Things Mentally Strong People Don't Do," and the host of The Verywell Mind Podcast. Learn about our editorial process Published on September 19, 2022 Print Verywell / Julie Bang Table of Contents View All Table of Contents Meet Ethan Suplee Why Ethan Suplee Is Mentally Strong What You’ll Hear on the Show What You’ll Learn About Mental Health and Mental Strength Quotes From Ethan More About the Podcast Every Monday on The Verywell Mind Podcast, Editor-in-Chief Amy Morin, LCSW, interviews authors, experts, entrepreneurs, athletes, musicians, and other inspirational people about the strategies that help them think, feel, and do their best in life. Follow Now: Apple Podcasts / Spotify / Google Podcasts Meet Ethan Suplee Ethan Suplee is an actor who is known for his roles on TV shows like "Boy Meets World" and "My Name Is Earl" as well as movies like "American History X," "The Wolf of Wallstreet," "John Q," and "Remember the Titans." In many of his acting roles, Ethan was morbidly obese. But food wasn’t his only addiction. He struggled with addiction to drugs and alcohol as well. After being told that he was going to die due to the severity of his health issues stemming from his weight and addiction, Ethan decided to try and get healthier. He went to rehab and lost hundreds of pounds and took control of his health. Why Ethan Suplee Is Mentally Strong Ethan is honest about the struggles he continues to have. Despite the changes he’s made to his behavior, he still struggles with negative self-talk. He talks openly about the fact that he has a hard time liking anything about himself. But despite those struggles, he continues to work on keeping his self-destructive tendencies at bay. What You’ll Hear on the Show How Ethan developed a weight problem and the things that happened during childhood that made it worse How he developed an addiction to drugs and alcohol What happened when a doctor told him he was going to die Where his self-destructive tendencies come from How Ethan never felt normal and how acting helped him feel like he was in a disguise How he’s had to deal with his self-destructive behavior in different ways (eating in moderation and completely abstaining from drugs and alcohol) How he deals with the ongoing negative thoughts that run through his head Why changing his behavior didn’t completely change how he feels about himself The steps Ethan takes to make progress every day How he finds something he admires about himself on a daily basis Friday Fix: How to Journal to Build Mental Strength What You’ll Learn About Mental Health and Mental Strength Sometimes people assume you can identify someone’s level of mental strength based on their behavior alone. But someone’s external behavior doesn’t reveal anything about the internal battle they’re fighting. So even when Ethan started going to the gym regularly, he says he hated himself. And his workouts stemmed from his desire to punish himself and inflict pain. That’s why building mental strength isn’t just about changing your behavior. It also involves learning skills to manage your thoughts and your emotions. Ethan explains how he changed his behavior first. But now, he’s on a quest to keep working on learning to manage the unhealthy thoughts and uncomfortable emotions that plague him. Quotes From Ethan Ethan Suplee I really just didn't like myself and I was terrified of [al]most everything except for playing a fat guy because it was OK to be fat in those moments. — Ethan Suplee "It takes decades to kill you usually. And so it's like, ‘What's this one day matter?’ And then you just string together thousands of ‘what's this one day matter?’ and you've got decades. Then you wind up dead because you're doing this thing that's not good for you." "I will say with sobriety, that's fragile. One [drink] is too many. I've just experienced it too many times to know, but with food, when I am still eating, I don't want to be too rigid. So I'm fighting against that within myself." "The problem I had for the longest time was I thought that weight loss was a solution. I think it is [a] mental illness, but it's like my feelings of dissatisfaction with myself and my angst and all of it was wrapped up in my weight. So, I was waiting for the day that I got to the ideal weight, [I thought] all that stuff [would] go away. None of it went away at all." How to Stay Sober: 13 Tips for Your Recovery More About the Podcast The Verywell Mind Podcast is available across all streaming platforms. If you like the show, please leave us a review on Apple Podcasts. Reviews and ratings are a great way to encourage other people to listen and help them prioritize their mental health too. Links and Resources Follow Ethan Suplee on Instagram: @EthanSuplee Check out Ethan’s podcast: American Glutton If You Liked This Episode, You Might Also Like These Episodes Friday Fix: How to Stop Sabotaging Yourself Break Free From Shame With Actor/TV Host Terry Crews Friday Fix: Increase Your Willpower With Temptation Bundling Ask a Therapist: How Can I Improve My Self-Esteem? By Amy Morin, LCSW Amy Morin, LCSW, is the Editor-in-Chief of Verywell Mind. She's also a licensed clinical social worker, psychotherapist, and international bestselling author. Her books, including "13 Things Mentally Strong People Don't Do," have been translated into more than 40 languages. Her TEDx talk, "The Secret of Becoming Mentally Strong," is one of the most viewed talks of all time. See Our Editorial Process Meet Our Review Board Share Feedback Was this page helpful? 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