Using Words for Different Feelings

Words and feelings that often come up in marriage

Top adjectives to use in relationships

Verywell / Nusha Ashjaee 

Everyone has moments when they just can't come up with the right word to describe what they're feeling or trying to say. You might be angry and start sputtering. You may feel overwhelmed and that leaves you speechless. The words are there—you just can't find them when you're overcome by emotion.

Here are some words that describe feelings that frequently crop up in marriages and relationships. You might find the right word here if you're having difficulty expressing yourself. You might not want to consult a list in the heat of the moment, but you can always refer to it if you're trying to write your thoughts down.

When You're Feeling Amorous

Amorous—that's a good word right there, isn't it? When you're looking for a word to tell your spouse that you'd like to head into the bedroom, to the sofa, or even to the hammock, you might say that you're feeling aroused, frisky, intimate, passionate, playful, romantic, seductive, sexy or stimulated.

When You're Feeling Angry

The term "anger" covers a wide scale. You might just be aggravated, agitated, bothered, distressed, disturbed, exasperated, irritated, irked, offended, peeved, provoked, or vexed. Then again, something significant or serious may have happened so you feel enraged, furious, incensed, infuriated, or outraged. 

When You're Feeling Confused 

Did she just stay what you think she said? Did she mean it the way it sounded? You're probably baffled, bewildered, clueless, lost, mixed up, mystified, perplexed, puzzled—or just plain stumped.

When Your Back Is to the Wall 

When you're accused of some wrongdoing, whether deservedly or not, you'll probably feel attacked, blamed, maybe even cornered.

When You're Scared 

Like anger, fright is an emotion that comes in a variety of degrees. You might feel mildly alarmed, anxious, apprehensive, concerned, edgy, or nervous. Or maybe your spouse has just said, "Can you sit down? We need to talk." This will most likely bring on a stronger, more visceral reaction and you may feel frantic, paralyzed, petrified, or terrified.

When You're Happy 

Ah, pleasure. When things are going well and your spouse has just said or done something to light up your world, you might say you feel centered, content, ecstatic, enchanted, elated, excited, exhilarated, fantastic, fulfilled, joyful, jubilant, overjoyed, peaceful, pleased, splendid or thrilled. If the two of you are recovering from a bad spell, you might feel encouraged or optimistic.

When You're Hurt 

Hurt covers a spectrum of emotions, too. When your spouse says or does something to hurt you, your feelings can run the gamut from discontent to devastation.

You might feel abused, belittled, berated, betrayed, bitter, broken, cheated, condemned, deceived, degraded, humiliated, inadequate, inferior, insignificant, insulted, mistreated, persecuted, rejected, robbed, scorned, small, squashed, stifled, tormented, tortured or wounded. 

When You're Lonely 

You can feel lonely in a roomful of people or when you're sitting beside your spouse. It's why you feel lonely in this situation and what happened to cause your feeling that matters.

Maybe you feel abandoned, adrift, alienated, alone, deserted, discarded, disconnected, empty, excluded, forgotten, ignored, incomplete, isolated, invisible, left out, neglected, unneeded, useless, unaccepted, unappreciated or worthless.

When You Feel Loved 

Hopefully, your spouse makes you feel cherished, needed, pampered, spoiled, and treasured

When You're Overwhelmed 

Feeling overwhelmed can be good or bad. On the bright side, you may feel amazed, astonished, awestruck, dazed, or delighted by something your spouse has done. On the other hand, you may feel ambushed, appalled, disbelieving, horrified, incredulous, overcome, shocked, or stunned.

When you're overwhelmed not by something that has surprised you but by something that has been going on for a period of time, the weight of the problem might leave you feeling smothered or suffocated.

When You're Feeling Resentful 

A lot of things can lead to resentment, but the feeling usually rears its ugly head when you feel shortchanged in some respect. You might say that you feel controlled, judged, manipulated, owned, powerless, repressed, trapped, used, victimized, violated, intimidated, or even exploited. 

When You're Sad 

Poetry and prose are replete with words to describe sadness. Depending on the degree of your sorrow and what has caused it, you might describe your feeling as blue, bummed, crushed, defeated, dejected, demoralized, destroyed, disappointed, discontented, discouraged, disheartened, disillusioned, dismal, grieving, gloomy, heartbroken, helpless, hopeless, let down or pessimistic.

When You're Sorry 

We've all been there, opening our mouths or taking some action that we instantly regret. You probably feel apologetic, ashamed, guilty, regretful, or sheepish — or maybe even all these things at once when you've hurt someone you love.

When You're Tired

We're not talking about how you feel after a long workday, but rather than feeling that comes over you when you've tried and tried to make things right but to no avail. You might feel burned out, drained, exhausted, fatigued, lifeless, overloaded, stretched, and weary.

When You're Feeling Understood

It's a great experience, feeling accepted, complete, listened to, and recognized.

When You're Unsure

To some extent, these words can go hand-in-hand with confusion. Your spouse has said or done something that you're trying to decipher and figure out. From there, you can decide how to respond.

"Unsure" words come more into play when you think you might understand where your spouse is coming from and you're pretty sure you're not going to like it. You're probably feeling cautious, guarded, leery, pensive, suspicious, torn, and wary.

Hopefully, these words will pop into your head the next time you need them, but writing down your favorites won't hurt, either.

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