Relationships How Do You Behave in Romantic Relationships? Find out how anxiety, avoidance and fear affect you and your partner. By Kendra Cherry Updated August 16, 2018 Medically reviewed by a board-certified physician More in Relationships Spouses & Partners LGBTQ Violence and Abuse 1. Which of these do you relate to most? It takes two to tango! Let's move in together...today! Absence makes the heart grow fonder. I'm nothing without you. Correct Wrong 2. How do you react when your partner is gone for a long period of time? I do all the things I normally do until my dearest returns. I become paralyzed with fear. I feel a little relieved, actually. I feel lonely and rejected. Correct Wrong 3. How I respond to affection... A kiss, a smile, and a brief touch. Giddy with joy and relief. I love you but the whole touchy-feely thing is not for me. Worried about what comes next. Correct Wrong 4. I think love should be expressed by... Offering security and support. Always being there. Being confident in what you have without being all lovey-dovey. Worries about what comes next. Correct Wrong 5. When does the feeling of abandonment cross your mind? I don't really fear being abandoned. Whenever my partner is not with me. Rarely. All relationships end anyways. All the time. Correct Wrong 6. Which one of these makes you the most anxious? When my partner isn't with me during most challenging times. When my partner goes to work. When my partner demands things of me. When my partner wants to take things to the next level. Correct Wrong 7. Which do you appreciate most? Quality time. Always being around. Understanding that I sometimes need a little space. Getting lots of compliments. Correct Wrong 8. When do you push people away? Never. Whenever they leave me or let me down. When they won't let me be me. Whenever I fear they are getting too close. Correct Wrong 9. When it comes to secrets... I try to be open with my partners and generally trust they're open with me. There better not be any secrets! Sharing secrets is too intimate and emotional. Better keep things under wraps. If I reveal everything, my partner would feel disturbed and leave me. Correct Wrong How Do You Behave in Romantic Relationships? You got: Secure Attachment Ezra Bailey/Taxi/Getty Images People with secure attachments tend to feel comfortable with themselves and their relationships. Securely attached individuals tend to have happier, long-lasting relationships. You feel comfortable sharing your feelings with your partner and are able to turn to your partner for support. Securely attached adults tend to have high self-esteem, believe in lasting love and have more positive feelings about their romantic relationships. THIS TOOL DOES NOT PROVIDE MEDICAL ADVICE. It is intended for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional medical consultation, diagnosis or treatment. Share Your Results Share Pin Tweet How Do You Behave in Romantic Relationships? You got: Anxious Attachment Simon Potter/Cultura/Getty Images People with anxious attachments tend to worry more about romantic relationships. You may fear that your partner does not feel the same way about you as you do about him or her, or you might be concerned that your partner will leave you. You might even want to become very close to your partner, but worry that this will scare the other person off. All of this anxiety can take a serious toll on your self-esteem and self-concept. THIS TOOL DOES NOT PROVIDE MEDICAL ADVICE. It is intended for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional medical consultation, diagnosis or treatment. Share Your Results Share Pin Tweet How Do You Behave in Romantic Relationships? You got: Avoidant Attachment redheadpictures / Cultura Exclusive / Getty Images People with avoidant attachments tend to have difficulty with love and forming close, intimate relationships. You may feel uncomfortable sharing your thoughts, feelings and ideas with your romantic partner. In some cases, you might even come up with excuses to avoid intimacy. THIS TOOL DOES NOT PROVIDE MEDICAL ADVICE. It is intended for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional medical consultation, diagnosis or treatment. Share Your Results Share Pin Tweet How Do You Behave in Romantic Relationships? You got: Fearful Attachment Tetra Images/Getty Images People with fearful attachments tend to crave emotional intimacy yet fear being hurt. They yearn for love, yet also fear it. This style of attachment tends to be rare and may mean that you have overcome trauma during early childhood and adolescence. While you have a strong desire to love and be loved, you find it difficult to trust your partner's intentions. THIS TOOL DOES NOT PROVIDE MEDICAL ADVICE. 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