Emotions How Emotionally Intelligent Are You? Emotional intelligence can play a role in life success. Let's assess your EQ. By Kendra Cherry Kendra Cherry Facebook Twitter Kendra Cherry, MS, is the author of the "Everything Psychology Book (2nd Edition)" and has written thousands of articles on diverse psychology topics. Kendra holds a Master of Science degree in education from Boise State University with a primary research interest in educational psychology and a Bachelor of Science in psychology from Idaho State University with additional coursework in substance use and case management. Learn about our editorial process Updated on October 11, 2021 Medically reviewed Verywell Mind articles are reviewed by board-certified physicians and mental healthcare professionals. Medical Reviewers confirm the content is thorough and accurate, reflecting the latest evidence-based research. Content is reviewed before publication and upon substantial updates. Learn more. by Steven Gans, MD Medically reviewed by Steven Gans, MD Steven Gans, MD is board-certified in psychiatry and is an active supervisor, teacher, and mentor at Massachusetts General Hospital. Learn about our Medical Review Board 1. Two of your friends are fighting so you… Try to help them understand each other's point of view Pick a side and bad-mouth the other friend Avoid both of them until the fight is over Let them vent their emotions to you Correct Wrong 2. Your friend tells you she has suffered a miscarriage. How do you respond? Allow your friend to express her feelings and offer your support Convince her to go out with some friends to get her mind off it Give her some time to herself Spend time with her, but avoid talking about her loss Correct Wrong 3. When you are facing an unpleasant task, you tend to… Make a plan and work on it a little each day Put it off until the last minute Get it over with as soon as possible Not do it at all Correct Wrong 4. Your daughter throws a fit when you tell her she cannot have candy at the store. You… Talk to her about how she is feeling Let her cry and try to ignore it Buy her the candy to get her to quiet down Quickly gather your things and leave the store Correct Wrong 5. During a heated argument, I am more likely to... Call for a short break before resuming the discussion Give in and apologize to quickly end the argument Start insulting the other person Shut down and stop responding to the other person Correct Wrong 6. When making an important decision, I tend to… Follow my instincts Go with the easiest option Rely on direction from other people Guess randomly Correct Wrong 7. Which of the following statements best describes you? I have an easy time making friends and getting to know new people I have to really get to know someone before they become a true friend I find it difficult to meet people and make friends I am unable to maintain close friendships Correct Wrong 8. You get a bad grade on an assignment you put a lot of effort into. How do you deal? Think about ways you could have improved the project Confront the professor and ask for a better grade Berate and criticize your own work Decide the class is stupid and stop putting forth your best efforts Correct Wrong 9. Your co-worker has an annoying habit that seems to get worse every day. You... Tell your co-worker what is bothering you Make a complaint about the behavior to your supervisor Talk about your coworker behind his back Suffer in silence Correct Wrong 10. You are already overworked when your boss assigns you another big project. How do you feel? Anxious about getting all the work done Overwhelmed by the task before you Angry that your boss hasn't noticed how overworked you are Depressed and sure that you can never finish it all Correct Wrong How Emotionally Intelligent Are You? You got: High Emotional Intelligence Verywell / Catherine Song People who score high on emotional intelligence tend to be skilled at interpreting, understanding, and acting upon emotions. They are adept at dealing with social or emotional conflicts, expressing their feelings, and dealing with emotional situations. It's important to remember that no matter how good your score is, there is always room to improve your emotional intelligence. Discover some of the key components of emotional intelligence and consider areas where you are not as strong and think of ways that you can learn and grow. Take stock of your strong points and find ways to continue to develop and apply these skills. THIS TOOL DOES NOT PROVIDE MEDICAL ADVICE. It is intended for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional medical consultation, diagnosis or treatment. Share Your Results Share Pin Tweet How Emotionally Intelligent Are You? You got: Average Emotional Intelligence Verywell / Catherine Song People with an average score on emotional intelligence tend to be pretty good at interpreting, understanding, and acting upon emotions. They are usually quite good at dealing with social or emotional conflicts, expressing their feelings, and dealing with emotional situations. While you have some solid emotional skills, sometimes you might find yourself feeling overwhelmed by conflict or emotionally charged situations. Even though you are about average at interpreting and controlling your emotions, it may help to learn a bit more about the characteristics of emotionally intelligent peo THIS TOOL DOES NOT PROVIDE MEDICAL ADVICE. It is intended for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional medical consultation, diagnosis or treatment. Share Your Results Share Pin Tweet How Emotionally Intelligent Are You? You got: Low Emotional Intelligence Verywell / Catherine Song People with a low score on emotional intelligence may have a difficult time interpreting, understanding, and acting on emotions. They often have difficulty expressing their own emotions and feel uncomfortable around the emotional displays of other people. In some cases, those who score low may experience low self-esteem, poor self-confidence, and may have difficulty feeling empathy and showing love for others. The important thing to remember is that even though you may feel that emotions are difficult to understand, there are things that you can do to improve your emotional intelligence. Once you recognize some of the key signs of low emotional intelligence, you can explore different ways to improve your emotional skills. If you feel that you are low on emotional intelligence, try to actively identify your own emotions and the emotions of those around you. Taking a class to improve your communication skills can also be helpful. THIS TOOL DOES NOT PROVIDE MEDICAL ADVICE. It is intended for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional medical consultation, diagnosis or treatment. Share Your Results Share Pin Tweet By Kendra Cherry Kendra Cherry, MS, is the author of the "Everything Psychology Book (2nd Edition)" and has written thousands of articles on diverse psychology topics. Kendra holds a Master of Science degree in education from Boise State University with a primary research interest in educational psychology and a Bachelor of Science in psychology from Idaho State University with additional coursework in substance use and case management. Speak to a Therapist Online Advertiser Disclosure × The offers that appear in this table are from partnerships from which Verywell Mind receives compensation. See Our Editorial Process Meet Our Review Board Share Feedback Was this page helpful? Thanks for your feedback! 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