How to Be More Interesting

person taking a selfie

Westend61 / Getty Images

Are you interesting? If not, don't worry—there are ways to become more interesting. It's not as difficult as you might think, and it can make a big difference in your life.

Interesting

Being interesting is all about being curious and having a genuine zest for life.

Learn how to be more interesting by following these tips:

  • Be curious about the world around you. Ask questions, do research, and try new things.
  • Be passionate about something. Find a hobby or interest that you're really excited about and pursue it with gusto.
  • Be engaged in conversations. Listen more than you talk, and be interested in what others have to say.
  • Be a good storyteller. Share your experiences and adventures with others, and make them captivating.

This article discusses ways in which you can make yourself more interesting. It also covers the benefits of being interesting.

How to Be More Interesting

Whether you're looking to make new friends, impress your boss, or attract a romantic partner, being more interesting is a surefire way to improve your social life.

It's not as difficult as you might think; simply show a genuine interest in the world around you and be excited about living your life.

Be Curious and Ask Lots of Questions

One of the best ways to be more interesting is to show a genuine curiosity about the world around you. When you're curious, you're more likely to ask questions and engage in conversations. You'll also be more open to new experiences.

In fact, social psychologists have found that people who are curious and ask lots of questions are often perceived as more likable than those who don't.

However, to be truly interesting, don't just ask questions—gather information on your own as well. This will make you more knowledgeable, and people will be impressed by your abilities.

Be Open to New Experiences and Meeting New People

If you're looking to be more interesting, it's important that you're open to new experiences. This includes meeting new people. When you meet someone new, make an effort to learn about them and their interests.

Go out of your way to talk to people, even if you don't know them well. If you're at a party, for example, make an effort to talk to different people. Not only will this make you more interesting, but you'll also be more likely to meet new friends and potential partners.

Be a Good Storyteller

An interesting person is often a good storyteller. When you share your experiences with others, make sure to make them captivating. This doesn't mean that you should make up stories; just be sure to focus on the most interesting aspects of your life.

If you can make your stories engaging, people will be more likely to remember you—and they'll also be more interested in hearing more from you in the future.

Talk About Things That Interest You Even If They Are Not Mainstream

If you're passionate about something, don't be afraid to talk about it—even if it's not mainstream. When you're enthusiastic about a topic, it's more likely to come across as interesting. This is because people are drawn to others who are passionate about something.

So, if you love a particular band or TV show, don't be afraid to share your excitement with others. You never know, you might just find a new friend who shares your interests.

Be Yourself, Quirks and All

Don't try to be someone you're not—it's more likely to come across as fake and uninteresting. Instead, embrace your uniqueness and let your true personality shine through. People are attracted to those who are genuine and authentic, so don't be afraid to be yourself.

Share Your Thoughts and Opinions Honestly and Openly

If you want to be more interesting, it's important that you share your thoughts and opinions honestly and openly. This doesn't mean that you should voice your opinion on every single topic; just be sure to share your thoughts when asked.

When you're honest about your opinions, people will respect you for it—even if they don't agree.

Pay Attention to Details About Yourself as They Tell a Story

What you wear, how you style your hair, the way you do your makeup, and even the jewelry you choose to wear all send a message about who you are. If you want to be interesting, pay attention to the details about yourself as they tell a story.

Have Fun and Don't Take Yourself Too Seriously

One of the best ways to be more interesting is to have fun and not take yourself too seriously. When you're enjoying yourself, it's more likely to come across as interesting to others. This is because people are attracted to those who are fun and upbeat.

Characteristics of Interesting People

Now that we've gone over some tips on how to be more interesting, let's take a look at some of the characteristics of interesting people vs. uninteresting people. By understanding what makes someone interesting, you can start to incorporate these qualities into your own life.

Interesting People
  • Passionate

  • Creative

  • Strong sense of self

  • Independent

  • Confident

  • Always learning and growing

  • Take risks

  • Authentic

  • Live with intention and purpose

Uninteresting People
  • Not interested in others

  • Self-centered

  • Close-minded

  • Poor conversationalists

  • Inflexible

  • Unwilling to try new things

  • Lack a sense of humor

  • Predictable and unadventurous

  • Overly serious

Benefits of Being More Interesting

Now that we've gone over some tips on how to be more interesting and some of the characteristics of interesting people, let's take a look at some of the benefits of being more interesting.

Some benefits of being more interesting include the following:

  • People will be more likely to want to spend time with you. If you're more interesting, people will want to be around you because you make them feel good.
  • You'll be more likely to stand out in a crowd. If you're more interesting, people will notice you because you're different from everyone else.
  • You'll be more likely to get ahead. If you're more interesting, people will want to work with you because you bring something new and fresh to the table.
  • People will be more likely to remember you. If you're more interesting, people will remember you because you made an impression on them.

Potential Pitfalls of Being Uninteresting

On the other hand, there are also some potential pitfalls of being uninteresting.

Some potential pitfalls of being uninteresting include:

  • Boring others and having them lose interest in you. People will quickly lose interest in you if you're not interesting.
  • Missing out on opportunities because you are not seen as interesting or engaging. If you're not interesting, people may not want to work with you or spend time with you.
  • Not being able to hold people's attention. If you're not interesting, people will quickly tune you out and move on to someone who is.
  • Having difficulty making friends or forming relationships. If you're not interesting, people may not want to be around you.

Can You Be Too Interesting?

Though it may seem like a good thing to be as unique as possible, it's important to remember that if you choose to be different simply for the sake of being different, people may not be able to relate to you. While you always want to be yourself, it's important to strike a balance between being unique and relatable.

If you're too different, people may:

  • Find you overwhelming
  • Find you difficult to relate to
  • Avoid you because they don't understand you
  • Think that you're pretending to be someone you're not

Frequently Asked Questions

Frequently Asked Questions

  • How can I become a better storyteller?

    To become a better storyteller, you can simply reflect on your life and past experiences. Maybe you found something really funny when you were a kid, go ahead and share that with someone. You're likely to be more enthusiastic about the things you remember fondly.

  • Does trying to become more interesting mean I'm being fake?

    No. If you're talking about things that you genuinely like and talk to people you are actually fond of, this isn't fake. You're just making more of an effort to be your best self.

A Word From Verywell

Being interesting is a great way to make friends, form relationships, and get ahead in life. If you don't currently consider yourself to be an interesting person, don't worry. Just remember to be yourself, take risks, be open-minded, and have fun.

2 Sources
Verywell Mind uses only high-quality sources, including peer-reviewed studies, to support the facts within our articles. Read our editorial process to learn more about how we fact-check and keep our content accurate, reliable, and trustworthy.
  1. Huang K, Yeomans M, Brooks AW, Minson J, Gino F. It doesn't hurt to ask: Question-asking increases likingJ Pers Soc Psychol. 2017;113(3):430-452. doi:10.1037/pspi0000097

  2. Laursen B, Altman RL, Bukowski WM, Wei L. Being fun: An overlooked indicator of childhood social statusJ Pers. 2020;88(5):993-1006. doi:10.1111/jopy.12546

By Arlin Cuncic
Arlin Cuncic, MA, is the author of "Therapy in Focus: What to Expect from CBT for Social Anxiety Disorder" and "7 Weeks to Reduce Anxiety."