Stress Management Management Techniques How to Deal With Low Frustration Tolerance By Amy Morin, LCSW, Editor-in-Chief Updated on December 08, 2022 Medically reviewed Verywell Mind articles are reviewed by board-certified physicians and mental healthcare professionals. Medical Reviewers confirm the content is thorough and accurate, reflecting the latest evidence-based research. Content is reviewed before publication and upon substantial updates. Learn more. by David Susman, PhD Medically reviewed by David Susman, PhD David Susman, PhD is a licensed clinical psychologist with experience providing treatment to individuals with mental illness and substance use concerns. Learn about our Medical Review Board Print Luis Alvarez / Digital Vision / Getty Images Table of Contents View All Table of Contents Consequences Causes Signs Build Frustration Tolerance Frustration is an emotion that stems from challenges that stand in the way of goals. The ability to deal with frustration is known as frustration tolerance. Individuals with high frustration tolerance are able to deal with setbacks successfully. Individuals with low frustration tolerance may grow frustrated at seemingly minor, everyday inconveniences like traffic jams and noisy kids. Individuals with low frustration tolerance may give up on tough tasks immediately. The mere thought of having to wait in line or work on a task that they don’t understand may feel intolerable. If you fall on the low end of the frustration tolerance spectrum, it may cause some problems in your life. Fortunately, there are some things you can do to improve your frustration tolerance. Consequences Frustration tolerance is a core component of psychological well-being. Individuals who can handle setbacks are more likely to persist at their goals, which can help them feel good and achieve more. Those with low frustration tolerance may give up easily or avoid tough tasks altogether. It can take a serious toll on their achievement. It can also affect relationships. Individuals with low frustration tolerance might be more likely to lash out when they’re frustrated. They may have little patience for their partners’ behavior or their intolerance to everyday situations (like waiting for a table at the restaurant), and this can lead to increased tension in the relationship. Causes There are several reasons why some people struggle with low frustration tolerance: Mental illness. Mental health conditions, such as depression and anxiety, can decrease a person’s frustration tolerance. Studies have also found that individuals with ADHD tend to have less tolerance for frustration as well. Personality. Personality also plays a role in frustration tolerance. Some people naturally tolerate frustrating circumstances better than others. Belief systems. An individual’s beliefs also play a role in how well they tolerate frustration. A person who thinks things like “Life should be easy,” or “Other people should always meet my expectations,” will be less tolerant of everyday stressors than someone else. Signs Low frustration tolerance looks a little different in everyone. But here are some common signs: Frequent procrastination due to an inability to tolerate the frustration associated with a tough or boring taskImpulsive attempts to “fix” a situation due to impatience rather than waiting for the issue to correct itselfExaggerating temporary discomfortInsisting on pursuing immediate gratificationGiving up immediately when presented with a challenge or obstacleGrowing irritable or angry about everyday stressorsThinking or insisting, “I can’t stand this.”Avoiding tasks that might cause distress Build Frustration Tolerance Frustration tolerance can be learned. With practice and consistent dedication, you can decrease the intensity of your frustration, and you can learn to express your feelings in socially appropriate ways. Here are some strategies that can help you build frustration tolerance. The 6 Stages of Change Accept Tough Situations Feelings of frustration get fueled by thoughts like “These things always happen to me!” or “Why does traffic have to be so bad every day? This is horrible.” Respond to exaggeratedly negative statements with more realistic statements. Instead of thinking about the unfairness of traffic jams, remind yourself, “There are millions of cars on the road every day. Traffic jams are going to happen.” When you catch yourself dwelling on the unfairness of life, consider whether it’s a situation you can change or whether you need to change the way you respond to it. If the situation is outside of your control, then focus on acceptance. Give Yourself a Pep Talk Frustration can stem from doubting your inability to tolerate distress. Thinking “I can’t stand to wait in line,” or “I am too overwhelmed to try again,” will increase your frustration. These types of thoughts can also prevent you from doing tasks that might lead to feelings of frustration. Remind yourself that you can cope with distressing feelings. Whether you take a deep breath and try again, or you count to 10 when you’re feeling upset, experiment with coping skills that will help you deal with frustration in a healthy way. Press Play for Advice On Completing Tasks Hosted by Editor-in-Chief and therapist Amy Morin, LCSW, this episode of The Verywell Mind Podcast shares how to get tasks done with a science-backed trick known as 'temptation bundling.' Click below to listen now. Follow Now: Apple Podcasts / Spotify / Google Podcasts Learn How to Calm Your Body Feelings of frustration can lead to physiological symptoms, like increased heart rate and higher blood pressure. The changes in your body might cause you to doubt your ability to deal with frustration, which can lead to a vicious cycle that’s hard to break. Knowing how to calm your body can be key to calming your mind. Deep breaths, meditation, progressive muscle relaxation, and physical activity can help you manage the physical symptoms of frustration in a healthy way. Experiment with different relaxation strategies until you discover what works for you. Then, when your feelings of frustration begin to rise, you can spring into action and calm your body before your symptoms become too intense. Practice Tolerating Frustration Just like any other skill, frustration tolerance requires practice. Start small, and work on practicing your skills. Purposely do something that is mildly frustrating, like working on a tough puzzle or waiting in a long line. Manage your self-talk, and use healthy coping skills to deal with your feelings. When you are successful at managing your frustration, you’ll gain confidence in your ability to tolerate distress. Over time, you can gradually expose yourself to more and more frustrating situations. A Word From Verywell While you might be tempted to assume that you were simply born with a short fuse, your low frustration tolerance doesn’t have to be permanent. You can take steps to build this tolerance, which could improve the quality of your life. So if you’re having difficulty improving your frustration tolerance on your own, or if it seems to be a symptom of a bigger issue, then talk to a mental health professional. Treatment may range from talk therapy and addressing thoughts that fuel your frustration, to considering medication that treats underlying issues like depression. 2 Sources Verywell Mind uses only high-quality sources, including peer-reviewed studies, to support the facts within our articles. Read our editorial process to learn more about how we fact-check and keep our content accurate, reliable, and trustworthy. Wang N. Study on Frustration Tolerance and Training Method of College Students. Information Computing and Applications Lecture Notes in Computer Science. 2012:663-668. doi:10.1007/978-3-642-34062-8_86 Scime M, Norvilitis JM. Task performance and response to frustration in children with attention deficit hyperactivity disorder. Psychology in the Schools. 2006;43(3):377-386. Additional Reading Battigalli P, Dufwenberg M, Smith A. Frustration, aggression, and anger in leader-follower games. Games and Economic Behavior. 2019;117:15-39. doi:10.1016/j.geb.2019.06.001 Loya JM, Mccauley KL, Chronis-Tuscano A, et al. An experimental paradigm examining the influence of frustration on risk-taking behavior. Behavioural Processes. 2019;158:155-162. doi:10.1016/j.beproc.2018.10.013 By Amy Morin, LCSW, Editor-in-Chief Amy Morin, LCSW, is the Editor-in-Chief of Verywell Mind. She's also a licensed clinical social worker, psychotherapist, and international bestselling author. Her books, including "13 Things Mentally Strong People Don't Do," have been translated into more than 40 languages. Her TEDx talk, "The Secret of Becoming Mentally Strong," is one of the most viewed talks of all time. See Our Editorial Process Meet Our Review Board Share Feedback Was this page helpful? Thanks for your feedback! What is your feedback? 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