Relationships How to Manage an Older Woman-Younger Man Relationship By Elizabeth Plumptre Elizabeth Plumptre LinkedIn Elizabeth is a freelance health and wellness writer. She helps brands craft factual, yet relatable content that resonates with diverse audiences. Learn about our editorial process Published on November 29, 2021 Medically reviewed Verywell Mind articles are reviewed by board-certified physicians and mental healthcare professionals. Medical Reviewers confirm the content is thorough and accurate, reflecting the latest evidence-based research. Content is reviewed before publication and upon substantial updates. Learn more. by Sabrina Romanoff, PsyD Medically reviewed by Sabrina Romanoff, PsyD LinkedIn Twitter Dr. Sabrina Romanoff, PsyD, is a licensed clinical psychologist and a professor at Yeshiva University’s clinical psychology doctoral program. Learn about our Medical Review Board Print Robert Nicholas / Getty Images Table of Contents View All Table of Contents Dating a Younger Man Dating an Older Woman How to Maintain a Healthy Relationship It might sound like the stuff cliches are made of, but age really is just a number. For most men, this is an agreeable sentiment—the older man/younger woman dynamic has been accepted as normal for generations. Now on the come up is a similar trend with older women. Accepting that any romantic limits relying on age are groundless, mature women are venturing out to find love, companionship, and sexual satisfaction with younger men. Likewise, younger men are looking beyond partners within their age group to find fulfillment in relationships with mature lovers. For anyone considering making a move towards a younger man or older crush, we’ll be examining the benefits of exploring this relationship. To make certain all the right elements are present, we’ll also look at the ways to promote healthy interactions in relationships with large age differences. Reasons to Explore a Relationship With a Younger Man After a certain age, it’s almost expected that a woman’s romantic and intimate needs take the back seat, never to be pursued or even acknowledged. In reality, this is anything but the truth, even for much older women. A survey carried out by the University of Michigan found that 31% of women between the ages of 65 and 70 remained sexually active and happy with their sex lives. While this happiness may be found with men of any age, the younger crowd appears to be gaining ground. Back in 2003, an AARP poll found that 34% of women over 40 were dating younger men. This may be traceable to a number of reasons that are discussed below. Increased Sexual Compatibility One truth about age is that it comes with experience. Older women, having navigated the sexual terrains of their 20s, 30s, and 40s, usually come out knowing what they want, what works, and what should be avoided during sex. The decision to match with a younger man can be a plus for an older woman’s sex life. While younger men are still in the phase of understanding a woman’s body, mature women can give expert guidance tailored to their exact intimate needs. Older women may also find younger men—who are usually at the prime of their physical health—to be more energetic as sexual partners. Better Ease With Handling Relationship Challenges Women above a certain age are likely to have gone through the wringer—couple fights, heartbreak, divorce—all of which come with their unique learning experiences. By choosing to be with a younger man, mature women bring their wealth of experience navigating relationship tides; happiness, and otherwise, with their less seasoned partner. Women at this age may also find it easier to voice out any unhappiness, which they may have stomached earlier on in their romantic lives. They Might Be More Adventurous Another perk of dating a younger man is proximity to current trends and activities. Younger men have a stronger grip on newer, fun places to hang out, sexual innovations to attempt, or even what social media dance challenges are worth learning! The combination of youth and a mindset still in development, make younger men an appealing choice for women looking to experience more from life. A Change in Relationship Dynamics In past relationships, women may have been used to playing second fiddle to their older partners. This may have seen their partners act as primary providers or heads of the home. While this isn’t a requirement in relationships between younger men and mature women relationships, the latter are more likely to be financially stable and accomplished. This gives women the opportunity to reverse traditional roles with a younger partner. Opens a New Dating Market In our present society, the 20s and 30s are ages reserved for finding partners, starting families, and raising children. This leaves a drying pool for prospective relationships after the 40s and above. While their peers are already partnered up, mature women can find new romantic interests in younger men that have yet to make the leap. Reasons to Consider a Relationship With An Older Woman When it comes to partners, society has created a particularly unwelcoming environment for younger men who find older women appealing. This attraction is often likened to an Oedipus complex, rather than a simple situation of two people finding each other compatible. For younger men interested in exploring a relationship with older women, there are a number of reasons to do so. It Can Be an Ego Boost Attracting and maintaining the attention of a mature woman can serve as a thing of pride for a much younger man. It can be extremely flattering when an older woman with more world experience, considers a younger man’s interactions and level of intelligence intriguing enough to partner with. A Fitting Lifestyle Arrangement For men uninterested in having and raising children, a relationship with an older woman might be the most ideal setup. Older women are most likely done with or are wrapping up that chapter of their lives. This leaves room to focus their attention on their younger romantic companion. Can Learn From Their Experiences Older women are likely to have more work and life experience than their younger counterparts. To the right man, an older partner can serve as a romantic interest, as well as a source of knowledge to learn from. A Different Relationship Dynamic Men are used to taking charge and performing as head of the home in relationships. This dynamic may not always fly with an older partner, as they are more self-assured and financially independent to play any role they choose in the relationship. For younger men interested in experiencing relationships using a different lens, this can be a fitting pairing. Fulfilling Sexual Encounters Because older women are most likely to have fine-tuned their preferences in the bedroom—this mastery may come out on display during intimate moments with younger men. Older women may have more to teach when it comes to sexual pleasure. This can provide oppurtunities for learning about preferences and sexual connections. How to Maintain a Healthy Relationship When making the decision to pursue an older/younger person, the priority should be on creating the healthiest and happiest relationship possible. To create an ideal environment for your partner, the following key points should be kept in mind: Quality time together, research shows the committing time to one another, in a healthy relationship, can boost well-being Open and honest communication Maintaining intimacy in the relationship Keeping respect intact for each other Making sure to be appreciative of the other person How to Know If You Are In a Healthy Relationship A Word From Verywell Dating at any age should be a pleasurable, intimate experience. This means not caring about what society or traditions have to say between two of-age, consenting adults. Rather than focus on the age difference with a partner, priorities should instead lie in making the relationship the safest, most accommodating space for love to thrive. 4 Sources Verywell Mind uses only high-quality sources, including peer-reviewed studies, to support the facts within our articles. Read our editorial process to learn more about how we fact-check and keep our content accurate, reliable, and trustworthy. University of Michigan Institute for Healthcare Policy & Innovation. Sex after 65: Poll of Older Adults Finds Links to health, gender differences, lack of communication with doctors. Lieberman H. The Stigma Around Older Woman-Younger Man Relationships. JSTOR Daily. Published May 25, 2017. Dictionary.apa.org. Oedipus complex Hudson NW, Lucas RE, Donnellan MB. The Highs and Lows of Love: Romantic Relationship Quality Moderates Whether Spending Time With One's Partner Predicts Gains or Losses in Well-Being. Pers Soc Psychol Bull. 2020;46(4):572-589. doi:10.1177/0146167219867960 By Elizabeth Plumptre Elizabeth is a freelance health and wellness writer. She helps brands craft factual, yet relatable content that resonates with diverse audiences. See Our Editorial Process Meet Our Review Board Share Feedback Was this page helpful? Thanks for your feedback! 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