How to See Vulnerability as a Strength, Not a Weakness

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The Verywell Mind Podcast's “Friday Fix” is a short episode that features a quick, actionable tip or exercise to help you manage a specific mental health issue or concern.

Friday Fix: Episode 105

Apologizing, being the first to say, “I love you,” and telling someone when your feelings are hurt are just a few examples of vulnerability

Quite often, we’re discouraged from showing our vulnerabilities, however. We’re taught to “Never let them see you sweat,” and “Act like you don’t care.” 

Consequently, many people view vulnerability as a sign of weakness. After all, when you’re vulnerable you put yourself in a position where you could be hurt.

So to prevent others from hurting you, you put up protective armor to stay safe. And while that protective armor may spare you from some emotional injuries, it will also prevent you from enjoying many good things in life. 

Our protective armor often comes in the form of rules we’ve established for ourselves. Quite often, though, we don’t even recognize our rules because we’ve grown so accustomed to living by them.

However, asking yourself a few key questions can help you uncover those rules you’ve established in your life. I guarantee you have a few. 

In today’s Friday Fix, I share how to recognize your protective armor, why becoming more vulnerable is a strength, and steps you can take to practice being more vulnerable in a healthy way. 

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By Amy Morin, LCSW
Amy Morin, LCSW, is a psychotherapist and international bestselling author. Her books, including "13 Things Mentally Strong People Don't Do," have been translated into more than 40 languages. Her TEDx talk,  "The Secret of Becoming Mentally Strong," is one of the most viewed talks of all time.