Self-Improvement How to Stop Being a People-Pleaser By Amy Morin, LCSW Amy Morin, LCSW Facebook LinkedIn Twitter Amy Morin, LCSW, is the Editor-in-Chief of Verywell Mind. She's also a psychotherapist, the author of the bestselling book "13 Things Mentally Strong People Don't Do," and the host of The Verywell Mind Podcast. Learn about our editorial process Published on January 07, 2022 Print Verywell / Julie Bang Table of Contents View All Table of Contents Friday Fix: Episode 133 More About the Podcast Every Friday on The Verywell Mind Podcast, Editor-in-Chief Amy Morin, LCSW, shares the “Friday Fix”—a short episode featuring a quick, actionable tip or exercise to help you manage a specific mental health issue or concern. Subscribe Now: Apple Podcasts / Spotify / Google Podcasts Friday Fix: Episode 133 It’s normal to want to be liked and accepted. But taken too far, you could become a people-pleaser. People pleasing can become a chronic habit that is tough to break. You might say "yes" to things you don’t want to do to prevent someone from getting angry. Or, you might say what you think people want to hear so that you’ll fit in with those around you. If you’ve been a lifelong people-pleaser, it’s tough to stand up for yourself and express your true opinions. But, it’s important to do so. Being able to be yourself is key to good mental health. It may also be key to helping you reach your goals. Fortunately, you can start with one small step at a time. In this episode, I share how you can start to break free from people-pleasing habits. I explain why people become people-pleasers, the downsides of trying to make people happy, and the steps you can take to start taking care of your own needs. More About the Podcast The Verywell Mind Podcast is available across all streaming platforms. If you like the show, please leave us a review on Apple Podcasts. Reviews and ratings are a great way to encourage other people to listen and help them prioritize their mental health too. Download the Transcript Links and Resources Follow Amy Morin on Instagram. Check out Amy’s books on mental strength. Why It’s Important to Have High Self-Esteem If You Liked This Episode You Might Also Like These Episodes: Friday Fix: Why You Should Develop a Personal Mantra How to Reduce Your Anxiety With NBA Player Kyle Guy Friday Fix: How to Reduce Uncomfortable Emotions So You Can Think Clearly How to Be More Confident: 9 Tips That Work By Amy Morin, LCSW Amy Morin, LCSW, is the Editor-in-Chief of Verywell Mind. She's also a licensed clinical social worker, psychotherapist, and international bestselling author. Her books, including "13 Things Mentally Strong People Don't Do," have been translated into more than 40 languages. Her TEDx talk, "The Secret of Becoming Mentally Strong," is one of the most viewed talks of all time. See Our Editorial Process Meet Our Review Board Share Feedback Was this page helpful? Thanks for your feedback! What is your feedback? Other Helpful Report an Error Submit Speak to a Therapist Online Advertiser Disclosure × The offers that appear in this table are from partnerships from which Verywell Mind receives compensation.