The Verywell Mind Podcast How to Become Your Own Biggest Fan With Actress KJ Smith By Amy Morin, LCSW, Editor-in-Chief Published on February 28, 2022 Print Verywell / Julie Bang Table of Contents View All Table of Contents Meet KJ Smith Why KJ Smith Is Mentally Strong What You’ll Hear on the Show What You’ll Learn About Mental Health and Mental Strength Quotes From KJ More About the Podcast Every Monday on The Verywell Mind Podcast, Editor-in-Chief Amy Morin, LCSW, interviews authors, experts, entrepreneurs, athletes, musicians, and other inspirational people about the strategies that help them think, feel, and do their best in life. Follow Now: Apple Podcasts / Spotify / Google Podcasts Meet KJ Smith KJ Smith moved to Los Angeles after college to pursue a career in acting. She landed appearances in a variety of shows over the years and worked her way into bigger roles. Currently, she has a lead role in the BET comedy-drama series "Sistas" and she is also going to star in the upcoming season of Starz’ Power Book III: Raising Kainan. She isn’t shy about talking about her mental health. She has become an advocate for therapy and self-care. Why KJ Smith Is Mentally Strong KJ says she has faced some ups and downs in her career and she has learned that it’s important to become her own biggest fan. Her rise to fame has taught her a lot about herself and how important it is to have boundaries and be her authentic self. She is very open about her struggles with mental health and the steps she is taking to stay mentally strong. As a Therapist, Here Are 5 Things I Wish More People Understood About Mental Strength What You’ll Hear on the Show How KJ learned to be comfortable with her emotions What happens when other people aren’t comfortable with her emotional expressions How she learned to become her own biggest fan How she fills her mind with helpful, positive things The modifications she makes to her environment that help her stay mentally healthy How she establishes boundaries with people How she got through several bouts of depression How she uses music to manage her mood How she uses social media in a healthy way How she chooses to give other people grace How to tune out the noise around you when you’re trying to make decisions A Verywell Report: Music Helped Most of Us Get Through the Pandemic What You’ll Learn About Mental Health and Mental Strength KJ talks about having bouts with depression. Periods of depression can be common. Some people have serious depressive episodes, others have mild depressive episodes. Some people get better without professional help. Others require treatment, like medication or therapy, to feel better. Depressive episodes aren’t a sign of weakness. Despite your best efforts, they may still happen to you from time to time. This may stem from your brain chemistry or it may depend on environmental factors. Building mental strength may help prevent some depressive episodes but not all. Feeling depressed isn’t a sign of weakness. It can happen to anyone. Quotes From KJ When you go through something, I give you the grace that you need. "I had to start getting addicted to the good dopamine rush, not the bad dopamine rush.""When I was in school, you only had three people telling you what's cool and what to do and what to wear and, and how to be and what not to do. Now people have 7 billion people influencing their decisions, influencing their ears and their brain and their thoughts.""Meditation is essential because you have to silence your thoughts to really hear what's true." More About the Podcast The Verywell Mind Podcast is available across all streaming platforms. If you like the show, please leave us a review on Apple Podcasts. Reviews and ratings are a great way to encourage other people to listen and help them prioritize their mental health too. Download the Transcript Links and Resources Follow KJ on Instagram: @KJSmithOfficial Follow KJ Smith on Twitter: @kjsmithofficial If You Liked This Episode, You Might Also Like These Episodes How to Develop Fierce Self-Compassion With Bestselling Author Kristin Neff How to Get Comfortable With Uncomfortable Feelings With Actor Skyh Black The Letter Everyone Should Write to Themselves Self-Compassion Exercises to Boost Your Happiness By Amy Morin, LCSW, Editor-in-Chief Amy Morin, LCSW, is the Editor-in-Chief of Verywell Mind. She's also a licensed clinical social worker, psychotherapist, and international bestselling author. Her books, including "13 Things Mentally Strong People Don't Do," have been translated into more than 40 languages. Her TEDx talk, "The Secret of Becoming Mentally Strong," is one of the most viewed talks of all time. See Our Editorial Process Meet Our Review Board Share Feedback Was this page helpful? Thanks for your feedback! What is your feedback? 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