The Verywell Mind Podcast Stop the Toxic Positivity With Bestselling Author Nora McInerny By Amy Morin, LCSW, Editor-in-Chief Updated on April 06, 2021 Print Verywell / Julie Bang Table of Contents View All Table of Contents Meet Nora McInerny Why Nora McInerny Is Mentally Strong What You'll Hear on the Show What You'll Learn About Toxic Positivity Quotes From Nora More About the Podcast Every Monday on The Verywell Mind Podcast, Editor-in-Chief Amy Morin, LCSW, interviews authors, experts, entrepreneurs, athletes, musicians, and other inspirational people about the strategies that help them think, feel, and do their best in life. Subscribe Now: Apple Podcasts / Spotify / Google Podcasts Meet Nora McInerny Nora McInerny is an author from Minneapolis who freely shares her story of grief and loss. In 2014, she experienced a miscarriage and lost both her husband and her father all within a few weeks. She made headlines when her husband’s obituary was published. She and her husband had written it together during the final weeks of his cancer battle. It was filled with humor (he presented himself as Spider-Man and the ex-husband of Gwen Stefani). It went on to capture the attention of millions of readers. Why Nora McInerny Is Mentally Strong Since then, Nora has gone on to share her story of grief and loss in the books she has written. But she has managed to maintain her sense of humor throughout, and she makes it clear that laughter and pain sometimes go hand-in-hand. Nora uses her platform to spread awareness on tough subjects like grief and trauma. She gives a realistic view of what it’s like to experience deep emotional pain, and she provides hope to those who are also struggling in life (without promising that every situation has a silver lining). What You'll Hear on the Show The messiness of grief How you can experience conflicting emotions at the same time How trauma can show up in your life in surprising ways The dangers of toxic positivity Digital self-harm How to change your negative self-talk How to honor a loved one’s life How to have hope while accepting that life doesn’t always have a happy ending What You'll Learn About Toxic Positivity and Mental Strength Nora’s advice about naming your feelings and allowing yourself to experience a wide variety of emotions is wise. It’s something we often work on in the therapy office. There’s science that backs up why this is good for you. Studies show just naming an uncomfortable emotion can take some of the sting out of it. So simply saying, “I feel anxiety right now,” might help you feel a bit less anxious in the moment. Identifying feelings that seem conflicting can also help you make more sense of how you’re feeling. For example, you might tell yourself, “I’m happy that I’m starting a new job, but I’m also sad about leaving my co-workers,” or “I’m excited about this new relationship, but at the same time I’m scared it might not work out.” Quotes From Nora Nora McInerny Right now we live in a culture that wants us to perform every aspect of our lives in a way that is really unnatural. And we are very adept at performing happiness. — Nora McInerny "Get your hopes as high as they can that day because you won’t feel like this forever. And also feel as sad you need to on your down days because this is also not forever.""I need to tell you the things that I'm thinking about myself so you can tell me the truth.""Some things are going to happen to you—beauty and terror. And it is all part of your story. You are not the one bad thing that you did or that happened to you." More About the Podcast The Verywell Mind Podcast is available across all streaming platforms. If you like the show, please leave us a review on Apple Podcasts. Reviews and ratings are a great way to encourage other people to listen and help them prioritize their mental health too. Links and Resources Buy Nora's book It’s Okay to Laugh (Crying Is Cool Too) Buy Nora's book No Happy Endings: A Memoir Buy Nora's book The Hot Young Widows Club: Lessons on Survival From the Front Lines of Grief Listen to Nora's podcast Terrible, Thanks for Asking Follow Nora on Instagram Follow Nora on Twitter Check out Nora's TED Talk By Amy Morin, LCSW, Editor-in-Chief Amy Morin, LCSW, is the Editor-in-Chief of Verywell Mind. She's also a licensed clinical social worker, psychotherapist, and international bestselling author. Her books, including "13 Things Mentally Strong People Don't Do," have been translated into more than 40 languages. Her TEDx talk, "The Secret of Becoming Mentally Strong," is one of the most viewed talks of all time. See Our Editorial Process Meet Our Review Board Share Feedback Was this page helpful? Thanks for your feedback! What is your feedback? Other Helpful Report an Error Submit Speak to a Therapist Online Advertiser Disclosure × The offers that appear in this table are from partnerships from which Verywell Mind receives compensation.