Common Issues Facing Tweens

Growing up isn't always easy. With as much as preteens go through while transitioning into the teen years, it's no wonder that many of them find themselves facing some pretty troubling challenges. Parents, teachers and other adults can help teens deal with their problems by being supportive and setting fair limits. Here are six ways preteens can stumble into trouble, as well as some solutions to help them back up when they fall.

Risk Taking

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There are many ways in which troubled tweens express themselves. For some, it's through risk-taking. But troubled tweens are not the only ones who take chances. Risk-taking is common among tweens and teens in general, largely because kids this age tend to believe that they are invincible.

Risk-taking manifests in many different ways. For some preteens, that might include binge drinking, having sex, and taking chances with their own safety.

Substance Abuse

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Many parents mistakenly believe that the risks of smoking, underage drinking, and drug use are solely reserved for teenagers. Unfortunately, preteens also engage in underage drinking, smoking, and other abusive dangers, such as inhalants. Being able to recognize signs that your child is using alcohol, drugs, or engaging in other risky behaviors can help you combat the problem sooner rather than later.

Depression and Anxiety

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Depression and anxiety can affect children and adults, and in both cases, it can be a difficult and challenging obstacle. Children who are depressed often pull away from friends have trouble sleeping or change their eating habits, among other symptoms. If you suspect your child may be suffering from depression or anxiety, it would be wise to contact your child's doctor for an evaluation.

In addition, research has shown that physical activity help with depression and anxiety symptoms. Be sure to schedule a little physical activity every day.

If you suspect that your child may have depression or anxiety, talk to your teen's pediatrician. Their doctor will conduct an evaluation to assess symptoms and look for any medical problem that might be contributing to these symptoms. Your doctor may then recommend treatments or refer your teen to a mental health professional for further evaluation and treatment.

Obesity

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For obese and overweight children, life can be tough and troubling. Youth who seriously struggle with weight often face social issues and may have trouble fitting in. In addition, they also have higher rates of depression and other behavior problems. If your child is overweight, be aware of his or her self-esteem and offer assistance in helping your child overcome their weight issues, as well as the other issues that may come with it.

Depression and anxiety can also contribute to obesity since changes in appetite and activity levels are common with both conditions. Kids who are struggling with symptoms of depression fatigued to be physically active and may eat more than they normally would.

Self-Esteem Issues

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For many troubled teens, self-esteem — or the lack thereof — can be a huge problem. There are many ways to help your child build healthy self-esteem. It's important to be positive and encouraging, but it's also just as important to give them opportunities to both succeed and fail. Be sure to point out that you do not expect perfection from your child — you just want them to give it a try and do their best.

Kids, Trouble, and Free Time

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Tweens flock to trouble like moths to a flame. Think back to all the shenanigans you got into as a kid. There are a number of ways your child can find their way into trouble. One of those ways: free time. The more unsupervised free time a tween has, the more easily they can stumble into trouble. Your child should be aware of your expectations for them and understand that certain behaviors are off-limits, no matter what.

Tips for Parents

If your tween is experiencing any of these challenges, there are things that parents can do to offer support and assistance.

Talk to Your Tween

The first thing parents can do is open up a line of communication with your child. This doesn't mean peppering your child with questions, an approach that can often backfire at this age. Be direct when it seems appropriate, but in other cases, just set aside time to spend with your child. Listen to what they have to say and talk about the things that they want to discuss. Try to avoid being overly judgmental and don't dismiss their feelings.

Pay Attention to the Signs

Even if you talk to your child often, you should always stay alert to the signs and symptoms of a problem. It's important to avoid overreacting since kids this age can be more dramatic and moody in general. Some things that might be a cause for concern include:

  • Sudden changes in behavior
  • Social withdrawal
  • Negative self-talk and low self-esteem
  • Problems at school, including difficulty concentrating and poor attendance
  • Drug and alcohol use
  • Reckless behaviors
  • Irritability and aggression
  • Tearfulness and frequent bouts of crying
  • Loss of interest in activities
  • Changes in sleeping and eating habits
  • Fatigue; sleeping all day; lack of energy
  • Thoughts or comments about death or suicide

If your tween has been experiencing symptoms of depression or anxiety, you should talk to a doctor.

Aways take any signs of suicide seriously. If you believe your child is in immediate danger, you should contact emergency services. You can also call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at1-800-273-8255.

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