25 Questions That Will Help Build Intimacy in a Relationship

Intimacy in Marriage
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Intimacy in the marriage relationship can seem to suffer when our family is at its busiest.  It is just hard to find time to strengthen love and marriage when we are busy running to scouts, soccer, piano lessons and family events and are exhausted at the end of the day or a week. Here are a few questions that may help you and your spouse grow closer.

Questions to Build Intimacy

  1. If you could choose anyone in the world, living or dead, to have in our home as a dinner guest, who would you choose?  

  2. If you could choose the things to do that would make a perfect day, what would you choose?

  3. If you had a crystal ball that could tell you anything at all about your life that you don’t already know, what would you ask it to tell you?

  4. What is your favorite memory of your growing-up years?

  5. What are the ten most important things on your personal bucket list?

  6. When did you last cry about something and what did you cry about?

  7. If you could wake up tomorrow morning with one new skill or ability, which skill or ability do you wish it would be?

  8. What is something that you would like to try, but that you are too scared to try?

  9. If all of your friends were asked to describe you, which friend’s description would be the most accurate and why?

  10. What was your favorite book (or movie) as a child and why did you like it so much?

  1. What is the one thing about yourself that you would most like to change?

  2. What would be your dream vacation?

  3. What was your favorite place to go as a child and why did you love it there?

  4. If you could be any character in a book, who would you choose to be?

  5. If all of a sudden you knew that you had 6 weeks left to live, what would you want to do in the time you had left?

  1. What three things in your life could you not imagine doing without?

  2. Assume that your house is on fire and that your family members and pets are safe.  What things would you want to rescue from the fire and why?

  3. If someone gave you enough money to start a business - no strings attached - what kind of business would you want to start?

  4. What are the five things that you are most thankful for right now?

  5. If you could possess one artistic talent (painting, sculpture, writing, etc.), which talent would you choose?

  6. What is one of the most adventurous things you have ever done?

  7. If you could have been an eyewitness to any event in history, which one would you choose?

  8. What do you like most about your appearance?

  9. Over the last five years, how do you think you have changed?

  10. If you could take a year-long paid sabbatical, what would you do?