5 Signs You Need to Marry Your Girlfriend

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If you are dating with marriage in mind, it is important to look for qualities that would make a woman a good wife. You want to look for certain characteristics that will benefit your relationship in the long term. You should search past the physical attributes you find very attractive to and your undeniable chemistry. Not every woman would make a good spouse, much less a good mother of your children.

Here are five signs that your girlfriend will also make a great wife:

1. She is independent

An independent woman is a good choice because you know that she will not rely on you to keep her happy, occupied, and taken care of. An independent woman wants you rather than needs you; she doesn't freak out if she doesn't hear from you for a day, and won't be clingy or demanding of your time. This kind of woman will make a better wife than one who requires constant attention and reassurance. An independent woman is strong, confident, and not afraid to be alone.

Understand that interdependency is healthy. The kind of independence your wife should have concerns her ability to fully function on her own. But, she also knows how to reach for you when she does need you and can depend on you emotionally.

2. She is level-headed

A woman who is level-headed is much more appealing than one who is frustrated by every minor issue. You want a woman who will remain reasonably calm in stressful situations. This does not mean she will be perfect and never get upset, but she will not lose her cool at everything that goes wrong. She knows how to handle her emotions and thinks before she speaks.

You should also feel that she is a good resource for times when you might be under stress.  You can count on her abilities, intelligence and thoughts when you can’t.

3. She's low-maintenance

Just because a woman is low-maintenance doesn't mean she doesn't care about herself at all, but she won't spend hours getting ready for a date. A low-maintenance woman doesn't pile on the makeup, spend too much money on shoes and clothes, or need constant reminders that you love the way she looks. She takes pride in the way she looks without going overboard.

A high maintenance woman may not be with you through thick and thin. What happens when you can’t maintain her lifestyle?  You should not worry that this person will leave you or look elsewhere to keep her expensive habits going.

4. She supports your goals

A woman who supports your personal and career goals will make a good wife. This type of woman understands that not everything will be about her or you as a couple. While you both will have individual goals, she will be by your side cheering you in your efforts. She won't feel threatened by the time and energy you put into achieving your goals because she will have her own.

Your goals should also mesh nicely. They should not be so divergent as to cause a rift between you both. Knowing your spouse supports will help you meet those goals as well. 

5. She stands up for herself

Whether she is standing up to you, a family member, or a friend, you want a woman who will not let people treat her badly. You do not want a woman who will accept your bad behavior toward her or in general. You will likely loose respect for her. A woman who stands up for herself has confidence in herself and will not let anyone abuse her, talk down to her, or act as though her opinions don't matter.

If you want to get married, it's important to look for qualities that show the woman you are dating is a capable of being alone, strong, and responsible. Getting married is nothing to take lightly and you want to make the best decision for your life.



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