5 Signs You Need to Marry Your Girlfriend

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If you are dating with marriage in mind, it is important to look for qualities that would make a woman a good life partner. You want to look for certain characteristics that will benefit your relationship in the long term. Search past the physical attributes you find very attractive and your chemistry. Not every woman would make a good spouse (or rather, a good spouse for you).

If you want to get married, it's important to look for qualities that show that the woman you are dating is capable of being alone, strong, and responsible. Of course, you will also need to play your part and have these qualities yourself.


An independent woman will not rely on you to take care of her or keep her happy and occupied. An independent woman wants you rather than needs you. She won't be clingy or demanding of your time. Someone who requires constant attention and reassurance could make marriage more difficult. An independent woman is strong, confident, and not afraid to be alone.

Understand that interdependency is healthy. Ideally, each spouse can fully function on their own. But they also know how to reach for each other when they need emotional support.


Look for a person who remains reasonably calm in stressful situations—someone who is not frustrated by every minor issue. This does not mean she will never get upset, but she has the strength and maturity to manage her emotions.

You should also feel that she is a good resource for times when you might be under stress. You can count on her abilities, intelligence, and advice when you can’t count on your own.


Being low-maintenance mean a woman doesn't care about herself or her appearance. But she won't spend hours getting ready for a date. A low-maintenance woman won't need constant reminders that you love the way she looks. She takes pride in the way she looks without going overboard.

A high-maintenance woman may not be with you through thick and thin. What happens if you can’t maintain her lifestyle? She may be more concerned with style than substance.

Supportive of Your Goals

A woman who supports your personal and career goals understands that not everything in your marriage will be about her, or even about you as a couple. You both will have individual goals, and she will be by your side cheering you in your efforts. She won't feel threatened by the time and energy you put into achieving your goals because she will have her own.

It's important that your individual goals and your partner's complement each other. While they certainly don't need to be the same, they should not be so divergent as to cause a rift between you.


Whether she is standing up to you, a family member, or a friend, you want a woman who will not let people treat her badly. If she accepts poor treatment from you or others, eventually you may lose respect for her. A woman who stands up for herself has confidence in herself and will not let anyone bully her, talk down to her, or act as though her opinions don't matter.

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