Preparing for Small Talk: A List of the Best and Worst Topics

Small talk topics are the best source of conversation between people who don't know each other well. If you live with social anxiety disorder (SAD), making small talk can be anxiety-provoking. Learning to make small talk can help to build your confidence so that you can start conversations, make connections, and develop your social skills.

One good way to alleviate anxiety is to prepare for the types of topics that are likely to come up. Making small talk involves not only knowing what to say, but also what is best kept private. At the same time, it's important to overcome your urge to avoid it altogether. Rather than being scared of small talk, make a point of overcoming your fear of it.

Best: Weather

Women relaxing together with tea
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Although talking about the weather may seem mundane, it is a good neutral topic that everyone can discuss. Did a big storm just blow through? Are you in the middle of a heatwave? Look no further than outside your door for some good conversation openers. 

Below are some ideas of conversation starters you can use:

  • "Lovely day, don't you think?"
  • "Looks like rain is in the forecast."
  • "Did you order this beautiful weather?"

Practice making small talk about the weather by asking someone one of these questions the next time you find yourself in the middle of an awkward silence.

Best: Arts and Entertainment

Keep up with recent movies to have something to talk about.
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Arts and entertainment topics that are good conversation starters include 

  • movies and television shows
  • popular restaurants
  • popular music
  • books

To prepare for these topics, brush up on what is popular and always be in the middle of reading a good book. Try asking someone, "Have you seen any good movies lately?" You might have to ask 10 people before you get someone interested in talking to you—that's okay. Be okay with rejection, or actually seek it out. It's all just practice, after all.

Best: Sports

Sports is often a way for strangers to connect.
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Sports topics that you can discuss with others include 

  • favorite teams
  • sporting events 
  • tournaments 
  • bowl games

Keep track of what sports are played during which seasons, such as football, soccer, hockey, and golf, so that you are on top of the current action. For example, when the Olympics are taking place, everyone is sure to be buzzing about them. If you don't like sports, talk about why you don't like them.

Ask someone, "Did you catch that golf tournament on the weekend?" While this might feel uncomfortable the first few times you do it, eventually, it will feel more natural to you.

Best: News

Read or watch the news to keep up with current events.
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A great way to prepare for small talk is to read the news every day. Be aware of what is going on in the world and in your city. While paper newspapers are going out of style, digital news either directly from news sources or fed through social media have become popular ways of keeping current. 

Below are some ideas of conversation openers:

  • Did you hear about the new hotel they are building downtown?
  • What do you think about the teachers going on strike?
  • I read that they are going to hike up transit fares, did you hear that?

Remember that small talk is about building a bridge between you and another person. It doesn't matter so much what you talk about, but rather that you start talking.

Best: Family

Ask about a person's family to get to know him better.
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People are likely to ask you about your family. Conversation openers about family may include the following:

  • "Do you have any brothers or sisters?"
  • "How long have you been married?"
  • "Do you have any children?"

Be prepared for these types of questions and reciprocate by asking others about their families. Engaging in this type of small talk displays your communication skills, and helps you to learn a lot about a person in a short period of time.

Best: Work

Work is a common topic during small talk.
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Another popular small talk topic is work. You may be asked what you do and whether you like your job. If you do something unusual that is hard to explain, consider keeping business cards in your wallet. This works particularly well if your company or job has a website that people can visit.

Some ideas for work-related small talk include the following:

  • "How long have you worked as a (insert job title)?"
  • "Do you like your job?"
  • "That is an interesting line of work, how did you get into it?"

Always focus on what you'd like to learn about others and things you enjoy talking about. This will make the process of small talk feel more like fun than work.

Best: Travel

Travel can be a great conversation topic.
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People like to hear about vacations. If you travel, be ready to answer questions and give your opinions about the places you have visited. Put together albums that you can show people who visit your home.

Ask others about their favorite travel spots and what they recommend. Most people like to help and will be happy to share their experiences.

As an extra tip, if you are trying to break into a group conversation, always establish eye contact, smile, and introduce yourself first. Then listen and remember the names of the other people in the group.

How can you remember people's names? Focus, repeat the name, think of someone you know with that name, use the name in conversation, and say it again when leaving a conversation.

Best: Celebrity Gossip

Celebrities are always a good source of gossip.
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It isn't necessary to follow celebrity gossip to make small talk. However, it is a good idea to know a little bit about some of the most popular celebrities in case the topic comes up.

Save this type of small talk for informal gatherings or casual parties. Unless everyone else at your work conference is discussing a celebrity, it's best to lead with something else.

Best: Hobbies

Ask about a person's hobbies to learn what she loves to do in her spare time.
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People like to talk about their hobbies and are likely to be interested in yours. If you don't have any hobbies, consider trying something new. Not only will you have something to talk about, but having a hobby will give you a chance to meet others with similar interests.

Be sure to ask follow-up questions as you listen about someone's hobbies. Listen between the lines as well. If someone says, "That was the last time I ever went skiing," ask why!

Best: Hometown

Some people are proud of their hometowns and like to talk about them.
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You might be asked about your hometown. For example:

  • "How is where you grew up different from where you live now?"
  • "Why did you leave?"

Ask others about their hometowns as well. You never know who might be from the same place as you and how you might begin forming a connection. Expect that others will ask you about yours as well, and have an interesting anecdote or story read to tell.

Worst: Financial

Money is a topic to avoid during small talk.
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Asking personal financial questions of people that you have just met is inappropriate. It is fine to ask what someone does for work or what the positive aspects are of that career, but do not ask questions about salary. Most people will find this question intrusive and inappropriate.

Worst: Politics

Avoid politics when making small talk.
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The problem with talking about politics is that you never know who in the crowd may have strong opinions. Stay away from this topic unless you want to risk ending up in the middle of a heated conversation.

Worst: Religion

Religion is a personal topic to be avoided during small talk.
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Religion is another extremely personal and potentially sensitive topic that should be avoided.

Worst: Sex

Sex is a topic to avoid during small talk.
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Talking about sex or asking questions of an intimate nature is inappropriate during small talk. When talking with strangers, avoid talking openly about sex or making sexual innuendos. Both are likely to make others uncomfortable.

Worst: Death

Death is not a light-hearted topic.
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Death is another heavy topic that should be avoided during small talk. When you are in the company of strangers, do not bring up emotional topics that have the potential to be upsetting.

Worst: Age/Appearance

Never ask a woman if she's pregnant—just in case.
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Unless you know someone well, avoid topics related to age and appearance.

Do not ask a person's age. Although the question might seem simple to you, it can be a hot topic for some.

In addition, avoid questions related to appearance. Do not ask a woman if she is pregnant, or comment that someone has lost weight. You never know the reason for weight gain or loss, and could be left in an uncomfortable situation.

Worst: Personal Gossip

Gossip is not the way to make small talk.
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While celebrity gossip is fair game during small talk, gossip about people that you know personally is not. Gossiping about others not only paints you in a bad light, but you never know who might know each other. Avoid bad-mouthing others.

Worst: Offensive Jokes

Sexist or racist jokes are never appropriate.
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Save your sensitive jokes for your best friends (or better yet, replace them with jokes that don't have time and place restrictions). In particular, making sexist or racist jokes is offensive and a quick way to end a conversation with strangers.

Worst: Narrow Topics

Stories that go on too long can be boring during small talk.
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Avoid talking at length about topics that are one-sided. If no one else has seen the movie, don't go into detail about the plot or the funny scenes. Watch for signs that others have lost interest and find a quick ending to your story.

Worst: Past Relationships

Don't talk about past loves on a first date.
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Avoid talking about past relationships on a first date. Making comparisons or talking endlessly about a past love is a turnoff and a quick way to ensure you don't get a second date.

A Word From Verywell

The best small talk topics are those to which everyone can relate and that have no potential to offend. On the other hand, the worst small talk topics alienate, create discomfort, and quickly end conversations. Learn the difference between the two, and you will find it easier to talk to strangers—without feeling stressed.


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