Things You Hate to Do During Depression

Depression can make simple tasks seem like impossible feats

things you hate to do during depression

Verywell / Catherine Song

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If you have depression, live with bipolar disorder, or have a mental illness that makes depression more likely, self-care and household tasks can easily pile up and become difficult. Below are some common activities that you may find difficult if you experience periods of depression. 

Difficult Tasks During Depression

People who live with depression have many problem behaviors in common. While that doesn't mean you can't try to overcome them, it can be helpful to see that others may struggle with the same issues.

Personal Hygiene 

Personal hygiene is undoubtedly important, but when you are feeling down, you may not be able to muster up the energy you need to get yourself in the shower or tub. Other tasks that can be challenging include:

  • Brushing your teeth
  • Doing your hair
  • Getting dressed/changing out of your pajamas
  • Shaving
  • Washing clothes 

Getting Out of Bed 

Depression and feeling fatigue often go hand in hand, making moving or getting out of bed incredibly difficult. This is often because people with depression have problems with sleep—trouble falling asleep or staying asleep throughout the night. These poor sleep patterns can make it that much harder to get out of bed in the morning, making you feel sluggish and unmotivated to move.

Household Chores

Taking care of yourself while depressed is difficult enough. Taking care of others or your household might just feel impossible. This can include the following:

  • Caring for your kids, pets, or partner
  • Cooking dinner
  • Doing dishes or laundry
  • Managing household chores

Many people with depression report that household messes and unattended chores like a pile of dirty laundry or ​stack of dirty dishes only magnify feelings of worthlessness. To combat this, do your best to start small and tackle one responsibility at a time.

Going to Work

Keeping a job can be difficult if you live with depression or bipolar disorder with its periods of debilitating depression. Not only is it hard to get out of bed and dressed for work, but once you get to the office you may have difficulty concentrating, which can lead to procrastination.

Tips to Manage Difficult Tasks

If depression is causing you to neglect self-care, create a plan for change. This can include:

  • Avoid putting pressure on yourself or putting a time limit on how long it should take to "get your act together" or "get motivated."
  • Break up daunting tasks into smaller activities. For example, instead of cleaning the entire kitchen, just tackle the dishes.
  • Practice self-compassion and acceptance. This will help build a healthier inner dialogue, which can help motivate you to move past feelings of depression.
  • Start slowly. Identify one small, easy step you can take to begin caring for yourself better and build from there.

A Word From Verywell

If your family and friends are having a hard time understanding depression, show them this list. It's important for your support network to understand the challenges you face. Explaining your difficulties and asking for help and support may make a positive difference in your relationship

If you or a loved one are struggling with depression, contact the Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA) National Helpline at 1-800-662-4357 for information on support and treatment facilities in your area.

For more mental health resources, see our National Helpline Database.

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